So, I began dating for the first time since my dx in Dec. I've lost 70 pounds and feel great about myself & probably am the healthiest I have been in years. Funny that it took getting MS for this to happen.
So, with the change in weight & more importantly, my attitude, I've been getting more attention from men.
I had hoped for the best. I tend to wait until after a first date to tell someone I have MS.
The reaction I get is usually the same with some small exceptions. They usually get defensive and say something like, "That doesn't change anything, I'm not an "expletive" you know." Then a few days later, they disappear. Literally. No more calls, texts, they are just gone.
At first I thought I just met a couple of jerks who lost interest or met someone else & didn't have the decency to tell me. Then it happened again... and again. It finally clicked. They feel like crap dumping a girl because she has MS so they pretend to be ok with it, or maybe even try to convince themselves they are, and then they just run away from it. Or maybe they go home & Google it, see the worse case scenario & run. Who knows.
It's exhausting having to go through this with every guy I develop an interest in. Dating is bad enough but throwing this into the mix just really sucks.
So, with the change in weight & more importantly, my attitude, I've been getting more attention from men.
I had hoped for the best. I tend to wait until after a first date to tell someone I have MS.
The reaction I get is usually the same with some small exceptions. They usually get defensive and say something like, "That doesn't change anything, I'm not an "expletive" you know." Then a few days later, they disappear. Literally. No more calls, texts, they are just gone.
At first I thought I just met a couple of jerks who lost interest or met someone else & didn't have the decency to tell me. Then it happened again... and again. It finally clicked. They feel like crap dumping a girl because she has MS so they pretend to be ok with it, or maybe even try to convince themselves they are, and then they just run away from it. Or maybe they go home & Google it, see the worse case scenario & run. Who knows.
It's exhausting having to go through this with every guy I develop an interest in. Dating is bad enough but throwing this into the mix just really sucks.
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