For a year my wife has been trying to figure out what is wrong. Finally doctor number four suggested MS might be a possibility last week. My wife gets a spinal tap and MRI next week, but already thinks she has MS as her symptoms are a match to MS. I agree it is a possibliity but urge her to keep an open mind as it could be something else.
Anyway, we have been dealing with the MS possibility for five days now. We decided to not tell our kids or anyone else anything yet while we sort things out. We take a walk each night for some privacy. We talk matter-of-factly about MS and what we each learned that day. Then she breaks down and says things like she wants to die, she wants to set up a "do not resuscitate", that I should find myself a healthy woman, etc. I assure her she is beautiful and the woman for me, and that I would like to go to our kids' graduations together, dance at their weddings, etc.
I see the glass as half full -- she can do 90% yet and I foresee many fun things to do.
What do folks suggest for getting her past this funk?
On a different topic, this board has been helpful to me already. It's relatively easy to get "average of this, average of that" kinds of numbers via Google, but it's helpful to read stories about the nonaverage kinds of things.
It's painful to read the stories of people leaving their spouses, especially when their spouse needs them most.
Anyway, we have been dealing with the MS possibility for five days now. We decided to not tell our kids or anyone else anything yet while we sort things out. We take a walk each night for some privacy. We talk matter-of-factly about MS and what we each learned that day. Then she breaks down and says things like she wants to die, she wants to set up a "do not resuscitate", that I should find myself a healthy woman, etc. I assure her she is beautiful and the woman for me, and that I would like to go to our kids' graduations together, dance at their weddings, etc.
I see the glass as half full -- she can do 90% yet and I foresee many fun things to do.
What do folks suggest for getting her past this funk?
On a different topic, this board has been helpful to me already. It's relatively easy to get "average of this, average of that" kinds of numbers via Google, but it's helpful to read stories about the nonaverage kinds of things.
It's painful to read the stories of people leaving their spouses, especially when their spouse needs them most.
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