I've been back with my boyfriend since July (after a 9 year split up) everything was going great. I am 2 months pregnant. He even experienced me during a bad relapse that started in about May. By August I was off of work, hopefully going back soon. When I was really bad he was soooo helpful. He cooked, cleaned and took care of me.
But, over the last month all we have done is fight. Needless fights. He would get mad over stupid things and storm out of the room slamming doors. I couldn't figure out what was going on till he finally told me today. Apparently I am lazy and he feels like a dishwasher and a nurse. It hurt so bad to hear that. This week was the worst for fighting cause there was a couple of days that I didn't do the dishes in the morning because of bad days and when he came home from work he had to do them, which was his choice cause I would have done them when I got home. He doesn't understand that the fatigue is horrible and unbearable when it hits. The conclusion to this fight is that he is going to call me everyday before he leaves work so I have an opportunity to tell him if there are dishes and whether I need to ask him to do them or for him to leave them and I will do them after. I agreed as I finally wanted to end this long lasting fight.
The thing is; it’s going to really hurt every time he calls to ask that. I am going to be reminded everyday that he thinks I am lazy. Am I being unfair by thinking this? Should this not be hurting me?
But, over the last month all we have done is fight. Needless fights. He would get mad over stupid things and storm out of the room slamming doors. I couldn't figure out what was going on till he finally told me today. Apparently I am lazy and he feels like a dishwasher and a nurse. It hurt so bad to hear that. This week was the worst for fighting cause there was a couple of days that I didn't do the dishes in the morning because of bad days and when he came home from work he had to do them, which was his choice cause I would have done them when I got home. He doesn't understand that the fatigue is horrible and unbearable when it hits. The conclusion to this fight is that he is going to call me everyday before he leaves work so I have an opportunity to tell him if there are dishes and whether I need to ask him to do them or for him to leave them and I will do them after. I agreed as I finally wanted to end this long lasting fight.
The thing is; it’s going to really hurt every time he calls to ask that. I am going to be reminded everyday that he thinks I am lazy. Am I being unfair by thinking this? Should this not be hurting me?
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