I'm not sure if this thread is in the right spot, but I figured this is an issue every woman has - MS or no MS. I've been diagnosed since 2004 my relapses are bad but infrequent so I look completely normal and have mostly normal functioning of all parts of my body (my left hand is very limiting however).
Here's my life: I was diagnosed fresh out of college at 23 with plans to go to graduate school. Started graduate school in another state and married at 25. Finished my Master's degree and had my daughter at 27. Unfortunately, I am now 31 and not a whole lot has happened in the last 4 years. Granted I had a bad relapse at 28 and I had a son at 31 but I'm kind of stuck in graduate school with two kids and a workaholic husband.
So, my question is how do women with MS do it all? My husband is the opposite of supportive. He thinks he can put some money in the bank account and that's all he has to contribute. I fully appreciate what he does, but I can't understand why he refuses to see that it isn't enough. What I'm most afraid of is that I am going to give up on what I want for myself so that our lives can move on and then 10 years down the road I will resent my husband for not having been more supportive. I have tried and tried to talk to him about this for over a year and was even seeing a therapist to help me deal with everything but he still thinks it's my problem for me to deal with.
Sorry if this is long and doesn't "flow" well, but I would love to know how other women deal with struggling to get everything done when it's nearly impossible! Better yet, how do you decide what has to be done and what can wait. I guess I need to prioritize.
Here's my life: I was diagnosed fresh out of college at 23 with plans to go to graduate school. Started graduate school in another state and married at 25. Finished my Master's degree and had my daughter at 27. Unfortunately, I am now 31 and not a whole lot has happened in the last 4 years. Granted I had a bad relapse at 28 and I had a son at 31 but I'm kind of stuck in graduate school with two kids and a workaholic husband.
So, my question is how do women with MS do it all? My husband is the opposite of supportive. He thinks he can put some money in the bank account and that's all he has to contribute. I fully appreciate what he does, but I can't understand why he refuses to see that it isn't enough. What I'm most afraid of is that I am going to give up on what I want for myself so that our lives can move on and then 10 years down the road I will resent my husband for not having been more supportive. I have tried and tried to talk to him about this for over a year and was even seeing a therapist to help me deal with everything but he still thinks it's my problem for me to deal with.
Sorry if this is long and doesn't "flow" well, but I would love to know how other women deal with struggling to get everything done when it's nearly impossible! Better yet, how do you decide what has to be done and what can wait. I guess I need to prioritize.
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