Okay, I just want to know if you feel like you are just a just a inconvenience for anyone and how you deal with it......
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From your post I take it you're feeling like an inconvenience diguilio. I'm really sorry to hear this - I am absolutely sure you aren't a nuisance to anyone.
Yes, from time to time I feel like a nuisance that everyone would be better off without, and I have a tendency to withdraw when this happens.
I now recognise that these kinds of feelings, for me, tend to stem from depression, frustration at my situation and just general anger at the world.
Treating this kind of depression is really important, be it with drugs, or by talking to a health professional. Sometimes, just voicing our frustrations/anger does actually help.
Like a lot of things, these feelings do pass, and you feel better eventually.
If you're feeling like this diguilio, I implore you to please get some help. Although it might not feel like it, the sun will shine again.
Take care.
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Yes, I often feel this way as well. Partly because my mother had MS and at the time little was known and nothing was done for it. Some of my relatives thought she wasn't really sick and my father left her. So these things have had an effect on how I feel about my own situation.
I went to a therapist who told me about mindfulness meditation. I have an app on my phone that guides me through this every day for just 10 minutes and it has helped a lot.
But sometimes the feeling that I am a "nuisance" creeps up on me so I go to a journal I keep of positive things and read that. It really helps. The feelings do pass and things DO get better.
I hope you feel better.
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Sometimes.
I'm usually fairly optimistic, but there are times I feel like a big ugly mess of troublesome burden with a side of fake.
I know I'm super lucky to have a liven & supportive hubby and the very best friend anyone ever had. One or the other of them is always able to help me pull out of the funk."Hope for the best and plan for the worst. That way, all your surprises will be pleasant."
Verin Mathwin, The Wheel of Time by Robert Jordan
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Once in awhile, I get that feeling. Usually when I have a set back or just can't do what I feel I should be able to, and for me, it is usually accompanied by my own self pity party. Part of it is that I was always highly independent, so having to be dependent, I feel like a burden. It is in these times, I have to try in my mind to reverse the scenario and see if the situation was different, would I feel this person is a nuisance or burden? That usually helps me get out of the funk.Hope the feeling passes soon for you.Kathy
DX 01/06, currently on Tysabri
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Originally posted by diguilio View Postthank you for the advice....if you don't mind me where are you calling and can i have that number.....
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Originally posted by TinaP303 View PostSometimes.
I'm usually fairly optimistic, but there are times I feel like a big ugly mess of troublesome burden with a side of fake.
If I acted as miserable as I felt (any place but here), nobody would want anything to do with me! Guilty? Not really. Angry? That's more like it. The worst of it for me is watching my husband faithfully leaving for work every morning while I am planted at home, but again, this is not what either of us wanted!Tawanda
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Diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis 2004; First sign of trouble: 1994
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There are very, very few people who get through life without some family "disaster" or other. Serious illness, disability, drug addiction, accidents etc.
Just go through a list of everyone you know - it's life, and sometimes it sucks.
You're not an inconvenience or a burden - you're alive!
That said, MS is pretty high on the hard row to hoe scale.
All I can do is remind myself it's not my fault; I'd change it if I could - but I can't; and I am actually quite brave.
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Originally posted by Thinkimjob View PostThere are very, very few people who get through life without some family "disaster" or other. Serious illness, disability, drug addiction, accidents etc.
Just go through a list of everyone you know - it's life, and sometimes it sucks.
You're not an inconvenience or a burden - you're alive!
That said, MS is pretty high on the hard row to hoe scale.
All I can do is remind myself it's not my fault; I'd change it if I could - but I can't; and I am actually quite brave.Tawanda
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Diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis 2004; First sign of trouble: 1994
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