Hi Folks. Long time. No write. Tough day.
I had my annual evaluation by my boss today. Among other things he said that were troubling, he suggested I let my co-workers know when I'm having a tough MS day. I asked him why I would do that. He said it would give people an answer to why I keep to myself on some days and it would give them an opportunity to "help" me. He said it would be good to be more transparent about my illness. And, he asked me if I ever had days that MS kept me from doing what I needed or wanted to do. I said,"Every day. I want to go running again. I want to be in century bike races again. I want to wake up in the morning and feel rested. As far as my job duties go, I make sure they are fulfilled."
This conversation came on the heels of being awarded a national award for my job performance. He said the award is "tarnished" because I have personnel issues "at my end of the building". I do not deny it was a year of multiple super great things and a year of super difficult things that were impossible to foresee.
It was ALL I could do to not cry in front of him! I'm so sad. Just sad. I've NEVER had an evaluation before that was remotely like this.
Does MS affect me? Yes. Did it affect me this year (I'm an educator). Yes. Does MS define me? I wonder.
So sad. So tired.
I had my annual evaluation by my boss today. Among other things he said that were troubling, he suggested I let my co-workers know when I'm having a tough MS day. I asked him why I would do that. He said it would give people an answer to why I keep to myself on some days and it would give them an opportunity to "help" me. He said it would be good to be more transparent about my illness. And, he asked me if I ever had days that MS kept me from doing what I needed or wanted to do. I said,"Every day. I want to go running again. I want to be in century bike races again. I want to wake up in the morning and feel rested. As far as my job duties go, I make sure they are fulfilled."
This conversation came on the heels of being awarded a national award for my job performance. He said the award is "tarnished" because I have personnel issues "at my end of the building". I do not deny it was a year of multiple super great things and a year of super difficult things that were impossible to foresee.
It was ALL I could do to not cry in front of him! I'm so sad. Just sad. I've NEVER had an evaluation before that was remotely like this.
Does MS affect me? Yes. Did it affect me this year (I'm an educator). Yes. Does MS define me? I wonder.
So sad. So tired.
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