As if having MS wasn't bad enough, I also am dealing with my husbands drug/alcohol addiction! He has become so disconnected from me, he moved into the garage supposedly because he has trouble sleeping and didn't want to disturb me. He has difficultly sleeping because he is high/drunk constantly! While he has never hit me, the emotional/verbal abuse has really taken a toll on my health and I am now having to always use my wheelchair.
Whenever I try to talk to him about how I feel he immediately gets on the defensive and tells me that if I have a problem with him then maybe I should "get off my lazy, *** and get a job!" Seriously, thats what your gonna say to me? I'M IN A WHEELCHAIR 24/7!! I have friends who are perfectly healthy and better qualified then me and THEY can't get work! I miss working. I've held down a job since I was 16 and its awful sitting at home all day!
I've been seeing a psychologist and I told him I had been in contact with our local womens shelter to see what my option are because I don't want to deal with this abuse any longer and they said they would issue a temp. restraining order and he would have to move out [not only does he live in the garage, he has built a room totally out of cardboard IN the garage!] while he agreed that it was a good idea, he said that from his experience a judge probably wouldn't grant me a long term order because my husband has not been physically abusive and although I am in a wheelchair, I am fully able to find means to take care of myself [ie, friends/family]
So unless I want to leave my home and find a place to live or I stay here and wait for him to go off and hit me, I'm screwed just because I don't look the part of an abused woman. HE'S the one who has basically moved out already, our daughter and I actually LIVE in the house!
THIS SUCKS!!!
Whenever I try to talk to him about how I feel he immediately gets on the defensive and tells me that if I have a problem with him then maybe I should "get off my lazy, *** and get a job!" Seriously, thats what your gonna say to me? I'M IN A WHEELCHAIR 24/7!! I have friends who are perfectly healthy and better qualified then me and THEY can't get work! I miss working. I've held down a job since I was 16 and its awful sitting at home all day!
I've been seeing a psychologist and I told him I had been in contact with our local womens shelter to see what my option are because I don't want to deal with this abuse any longer and they said they would issue a temp. restraining order and he would have to move out [not only does he live in the garage, he has built a room totally out of cardboard IN the garage!] while he agreed that it was a good idea, he said that from his experience a judge probably wouldn't grant me a long term order because my husband has not been physically abusive and although I am in a wheelchair, I am fully able to find means to take care of myself [ie, friends/family]
So unless I want to leave my home and find a place to live or I stay here and wait for him to go off and hit me, I'm screwed just because I don't look the part of an abused woman. HE'S the one who has basically moved out already, our daughter and I actually LIVE in the house!
THIS SUCKS!!!
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