Hi. My wife and I had an issue yesterday where I was invited to go mountain biking with several friends including some couples. She is not physically capable of doing this ride due to her MS. When I told her I was probably going to go, she got upset and felt excluded and it was apparent that she would prefer that I stay home with her. So instead of turn it into a bigger issue, I just stayed home.
But, now I have some resentment. I have always been a physical person and it's important to me to do some of these things even if she is physically unable to. Am I being selfish? Is she being selfish? Sometimes the line between being supportive and being controlled by her MS is a little blurry...... I want her to feel supported but what is the best way to go about it while still doing the things that I want (even need) to do? I understand that she REALLY wants to be able to do these things too, but sometimes she simply can't and there's nothing that either one of us can do about it.
Thank you all for any insight.
But, now I have some resentment. I have always been a physical person and it's important to me to do some of these things even if she is physically unable to. Am I being selfish? Is she being selfish? Sometimes the line between being supportive and being controlled by her MS is a little blurry...... I want her to feel supported but what is the best way to go about it while still doing the things that I want (even need) to do? I understand that she REALLY wants to be able to do these things too, but sometimes she simply can't and there's nothing that either one of us can do about it.
Thank you all for any insight.
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