I see comments about caregiving that provide great insights on the challenges of the role, but I haven't seen my situation arise yet and I could use some help.
I was dxed earlier this year. As of now, I am asymptomatic RRMS. So my daily functions aren't affected, but I do have flares and pseudoexacerbations. Even the symptoms associated with those, though, are pretty minor aside from mobility. I've been very lucky.
It's become clear over the last few months, though, that my husband can no longer independently care for himself due to depression. He is getting medical treatment and talk therapy, but he's at the point again where he doesn't think he can work. Even if we find the right combo of meds for him to try to function again, it likely won't be before he loses his job and we lose our home. This will be the second job he's lost for similar reasons. He's 30 and has a long time to go before retirement. He has no retirement savings and about 100K in student loan debt from professional school.
I'm going to be honest - I'm scared. I can't see being the only breadwinner for our family forever. We don't have children (we were actually planning to have them, but I can't see that happening with both of us in these circumstances), so we don't have more dependents to be concerned with now. Part of me wants to divorce, frankly, because I can't see our life scenario working out. But I am also aware of how many people are unfairly dumped by spouses due to disability.
It's been a hard year
I was dxed earlier this year. As of now, I am asymptomatic RRMS. So my daily functions aren't affected, but I do have flares and pseudoexacerbations. Even the symptoms associated with those, though, are pretty minor aside from mobility. I've been very lucky.
It's become clear over the last few months, though, that my husband can no longer independently care for himself due to depression. He is getting medical treatment and talk therapy, but he's at the point again where he doesn't think he can work. Even if we find the right combo of meds for him to try to function again, it likely won't be before he loses his job and we lose our home. This will be the second job he's lost for similar reasons. He's 30 and has a long time to go before retirement. He has no retirement savings and about 100K in student loan debt from professional school.
I'm going to be honest - I'm scared. I can't see being the only breadwinner for our family forever. We don't have children (we were actually planning to have them, but I can't see that happening with both of us in these circumstances), so we don't have more dependents to be concerned with now. Part of me wants to divorce, frankly, because I can't see our life scenario working out. But I am also aware of how many people are unfairly dumped by spouses due to disability.
It's been a hard year
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