I have been dx since 1997 retired from work in 2000.
My wife has never accepted my dx and has been a very unsupportive partner for 15+ years.
We have a son who graduated high school last summer and went to college this year.
Over the past 15 years we have been to couples counseling, independent counseling, I have read a dozen self help books, etc., etc., etc.. None of it met with any cooperation. So last summer I moved out.
Everything was fine. Not too much resistance, just a few last angry words bounced off of me as I left.
It felt good. Years of being miss treated by a selfish, self-absorbed person that broke my heart and spirit being unloaded just like that.
Put the house on the market and rented the lower flat in a dump in town. I had a quiet and enjoyable summer. Met a lot of new people that seem to enjoy my company and even went on a few dates.
In October I moved to an apartment in Denver with a woman.... well as soon as the ex found out she went berserk!!!
Now I get 3 letters a day from her telling me how sorry she is and how we belong together. I have to leave my phone turned off because the stream of text are disturbing my rest and causing me stress.
After fifteen years of treating me like crap and two months of counseling she tells me she now understands how selfish she was and wants me to come back.
She say's she now understands and wants to help care for me the rest of my life.
This woman broke my heart and showed me nothing but pain for many, many years.
I think this desperate act to get me back is motivated by fear of being alone rather than love for me.
Walking out that door was the most difficult thing I ever did in my life. I do not want to walk back in just to face the same old krap.
I have felt happier and healthier all summer with the lowered stress but now my ex is trying (very successfully) to ratchet it back up.
I am too tired and worn to entertain anymore crap and that is what this all seems like to me.
I think I like not being married and only having to worry about me.
Any thoughts??? Thanks.
My wife has never accepted my dx and has been a very unsupportive partner for 15+ years.
We have a son who graduated high school last summer and went to college this year.
Over the past 15 years we have been to couples counseling, independent counseling, I have read a dozen self help books, etc., etc., etc.. None of it met with any cooperation. So last summer I moved out.
Everything was fine. Not too much resistance, just a few last angry words bounced off of me as I left.
It felt good. Years of being miss treated by a selfish, self-absorbed person that broke my heart and spirit being unloaded just like that.
Put the house on the market and rented the lower flat in a dump in town. I had a quiet and enjoyable summer. Met a lot of new people that seem to enjoy my company and even went on a few dates.
In October I moved to an apartment in Denver with a woman.... well as soon as the ex found out she went berserk!!!
Now I get 3 letters a day from her telling me how sorry she is and how we belong together. I have to leave my phone turned off because the stream of text are disturbing my rest and causing me stress.
After fifteen years of treating me like crap and two months of counseling she tells me she now understands how selfish she was and wants me to come back.
She say's she now understands and wants to help care for me the rest of my life.
This woman broke my heart and showed me nothing but pain for many, many years.
I think this desperate act to get me back is motivated by fear of being alone rather than love for me.
Walking out that door was the most difficult thing I ever did in my life. I do not want to walk back in just to face the same old krap.
I have felt happier and healthier all summer with the lowered stress but now my ex is trying (very successfully) to ratchet it back up.
I am too tired and worn to entertain anymore crap and that is what this all seems like to me.
I think I like not being married and only having to worry about me.
Any thoughts??? Thanks.
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