I'm trying so very hard to be the perfect christian wife. But I'm in a one-way marriage. My husband is not a christian. Everything is fine until I have ms problems, then I get treated like crap. Like, how dare I bother him by needing him? A good wife wouldn't get sick like that to her husband! He truly makes me feel that way. Half the time I don't even confide in him when I'm having problems which makes me sad because he its my partner but he always brushes me off, rolls his eyes, mocks me or halfway listens.
I think I'd be happier without him in the long run, especially if my ms worsens, and I also know he has it good and it would be his loss, but as a christian, I don't believe in divorce unless he were to physically abuse me or have an affair. He is very much emotionally abusive. He loves tearing me down: mocking me, calling me names, insulting me using my illness as ammo...and with that, I don't know what to do. He won't do counseling because he doesn't think he has any part in our problems.
Every single time I have a flare up, every time I really need him to be there for me, is when he treats me the worst. So feeling vulnerable, sad, depressed, scared and alone...I confide in my husband expecting him to do for me what I would do for him: be there, hold me, say it's ok, give reassurance. Why on earth would he instead choose that time to insult me, hurt me and make matters 100% worse?! I've never understood how he can stand there and say he lives me one minute but then go out of his way to crush my heart the next.
If I were conformed to this society I would've have left him a long time ago. But I'm not, and I'm trying do the right thing and be a
good wife no matter what and make this marriage work!
Thanks for letting me vent.
I think I'd be happier without him in the long run, especially if my ms worsens, and I also know he has it good and it would be his loss, but as a christian, I don't believe in divorce unless he were to physically abuse me or have an affair. He is very much emotionally abusive. He loves tearing me down: mocking me, calling me names, insulting me using my illness as ammo...and with that, I don't know what to do. He won't do counseling because he doesn't think he has any part in our problems.
Every single time I have a flare up, every time I really need him to be there for me, is when he treats me the worst. So feeling vulnerable, sad, depressed, scared and alone...I confide in my husband expecting him to do for me what I would do for him: be there, hold me, say it's ok, give reassurance. Why on earth would he instead choose that time to insult me, hurt me and make matters 100% worse?! I've never understood how he can stand there and say he lives me one minute but then go out of his way to crush my heart the next.
If I were conformed to this society I would've have left him a long time ago. But I'm not, and I'm trying do the right thing and be a
good wife no matter what and make this marriage work!
Thanks for letting me vent.
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