So my husband is in the process of getting a MS diagnosis. He had a MRI and the neuro said he had "fluid" on his brain and he ordered a lumbar puncture. We will get those results on Wednesday. I am dreading the outcome.
Today I thought I should be open with my husband and I told him that I was scared about the future. I told him that I had recently wished that I would die in a car accident or some other way just because I was so overwhelmed. I had kept this from him in a effort to protect him from the stress. But felt that he should know and also I hoped that by sharing our feelings it would draw us closer together.
After this he was not comforting but proceeded to tell me that I could divorce him if I wanted. He said it in a hateful way so it hurt my feelings. I do not want to abandoned my husband in the middle of this I just want to unite and help each other. I know he is scare and angry too but I do not know how to talk to him without upsetting both of us.
He is convinced that it is MS and I spend the majority of my time searching for another explanation. I am realizing more and more that if this is MS that people typically do not want to talk about hard topics like this. And even thought this is not happening to me I feel like I am carrying the weight of the world. We have 2 daughters ages 4 and 6 and I want to maintain as much normalcy as I can for their sake.
Any advice on how to proceed is appreciated. I know I need to wait for the official diagnosis but after hearing my husband say that he is sure this is MS I cannot stop visioning our horrific future! Thanks!
Today I thought I should be open with my husband and I told him that I was scared about the future. I told him that I had recently wished that I would die in a car accident or some other way just because I was so overwhelmed. I had kept this from him in a effort to protect him from the stress. But felt that he should know and also I hoped that by sharing our feelings it would draw us closer together.
After this he was not comforting but proceeded to tell me that I could divorce him if I wanted. He said it in a hateful way so it hurt my feelings. I do not want to abandoned my husband in the middle of this I just want to unite and help each other. I know he is scare and angry too but I do not know how to talk to him without upsetting both of us.
He is convinced that it is MS and I spend the majority of my time searching for another explanation. I am realizing more and more that if this is MS that people typically do not want to talk about hard topics like this. And even thought this is not happening to me I feel like I am carrying the weight of the world. We have 2 daughters ages 4 and 6 and I want to maintain as much normalcy as I can for their sake.
Any advice on how to proceed is appreciated. I know I need to wait for the official diagnosis but after hearing my husband say that he is sure this is MS I cannot stop visioning our horrific future! Thanks!
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