Do you talk about your symptoms, bloodwork, mri's and such with family, friends and your partner?
So far, only my boyfriend of 10 years knows how serious my symptoms are. He's also completely aware of tests being done. I've also informed him that if I do have lesions, tumors, whatever shows up on mri or in bloodwork that he's not allowed to cry. Not sure if that was a cruel thing to say, but I told him that I prefer to do research and be proactive in treatments, no matter what the diagnosis is. Crying seems pointless to me and will make me only feel worse about the situation.
So have you discussed any of this with loved ones? I told friends and family 5 years ago about not feeling well. That went horrible, most people tend to not react well to chronic illness. The responses were either:
1. Sad, forced puppy dog eyes.
2. "I just don't get what's wrong with you?"
3. Some constantly questioned what my symptoms are
4. Family admitted that they think it's all in my head, nothings wrong.
5. Some made suggestions like "cut out gluten" probably just celiacs, "it's probably just stress-related" "you need more water and veggies in your diet"
6. "how can you be tired, you just slept for 9 hours"
7. "well you look good" (??? are we supposed to look bad?)
I admit that I'm more worried about how others will respond to a diagnosis. I just want to be treated the same as I have been in the past, although I somehow doubt most people are incapable of acting that way. I might just keep everything a secret until it's noticeable. I've been able to make excuses so far, like saying my dragging foot is from uncomfortable shoes. I also use the "I have a migraine" excuse to get out of family and friend events when I'm really fatigued or symptoms are flaring up.
So far, only my boyfriend of 10 years knows how serious my symptoms are. He's also completely aware of tests being done. I've also informed him that if I do have lesions, tumors, whatever shows up on mri or in bloodwork that he's not allowed to cry. Not sure if that was a cruel thing to say, but I told him that I prefer to do research and be proactive in treatments, no matter what the diagnosis is. Crying seems pointless to me and will make me only feel worse about the situation.
So have you discussed any of this with loved ones? I told friends and family 5 years ago about not feeling well. That went horrible, most people tend to not react well to chronic illness. The responses were either:
1. Sad, forced puppy dog eyes.
2. "I just don't get what's wrong with you?"
3. Some constantly questioned what my symptoms are
4. Family admitted that they think it's all in my head, nothings wrong.
5. Some made suggestions like "cut out gluten" probably just celiacs, "it's probably just stress-related" "you need more water and veggies in your diet"
6. "how can you be tired, you just slept for 9 hours"
7. "well you look good" (??? are we supposed to look bad?)
I admit that I'm more worried about how others will respond to a diagnosis. I just want to be treated the same as I have been in the past, although I somehow doubt most people are incapable of acting that way. I might just keep everything a secret until it's noticeable. I've been able to make excuses so far, like saying my dragging foot is from uncomfortable shoes. I also use the "I have a migraine" excuse to get out of family and friend events when I'm really fatigued or symptoms are flaring up.
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