Wife in need of answers

[BamaAngel]

I have a question that is kind of embarrassing to ask, but I really need to know if it is a symptom or something else. When me & my husband are able to be together, he doesn't have a problem with ED, but he has a problem with it staying up and not getting there, if you know what I mean. Does anyone else have this happening with them? And what meds can help with it?
Thank you so very much~
BA

[hunterd]

same thing here!!! don`t know if it`s the ms or diabetes, or both.

[hunterd]

oh yea, welcome to ms world!!!! glad to have you here and look forward to seeing more of you.

[xavierlives]

Well, I am new to the forum and new the effects of MS, but everything that I have read would make me believe that is is a likely symptom of MS.

The real problem that I seem to be discovering is MS presents itself to many people in many different ways, so while your husband might be experiencing something, it does not necessarily mean everyone experiences it.

[BamaAngel]

That is why I asked, because the symptoms are different for everyone, but I thought there might be someone that has had or is having the same problem. He was just diagnosed June 7 this year, but he has had problems before this for a few years. Thank you so much for replying to my question. Do you know if there is a treatment for this symptom?

[kudos]

I've had this problem sometimes since before my diagnosis. Actually I posted a similar question when i was kinda out of it the other day just to get it off my chest.

I think viagra helps alot of guys. I know testosterone can also cause problems and I think steroids can cause low-T. I think doctors can give shots of this.

In terms of my own experience, I think some of my problems at least are from pain interfering with my ability to enjoy sex. At times in my life when I haven't had much pain I don't remember this being a problem for me. But my pain is worse during/ after flareups, so its not easy to really say for sure. Although when I was stronger pain killers a while a long time back I can't remember ever having this problem.

But then again, not everyone with MS has pain, so for your husband this might not be an issue.

[Ruckus]

No need to be embarrassed, The simple answer is yes this can be a result of having MS but, this can also be a symptom of other significant issues (diabetes, high cholesterol, low testosterone, etc..) I know it can be difficult but, your husband really should go have this checked out by a doctor. There are treatments (pills, injections, pumps etc..) seems like there is no end to human ingenuity.

I have had all of the test (testosterone, cholesterol, sugar) and while there are a couple of minor issues it was clearly determined that my issues are MS related. Yes, at times I have the same problem as your husband (staying up). At other times I can't achieve orgasm (stays up), at other times nothing happens (won't get up) and at other times everything works fine . At all times I have very little sensation.

This used to really bug me and to be truthful at times, it still does. Then I realize that it is not the problem that determines the character of a man but the way the man deals with the problem that determines his character. At least that what I keep telling myself.

A testament to human ingenuity
Ruckus

[GJinUK]

There's Erectile Dysfunction (ED), problems in getting maintaining an erection and there is Anorgasmia, the failure to reach orgasm.

Google has information on Anorgasmia.

[kudos]

GJinUK, thanks for your post. I didn't know there was a name for this. Looks like MS, chronic pain, medications, other spinal disorders, and depression all can cause this.

This article was particularly informative, but also a bummer, if you can get through the scientific mumbo-jumbo:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...00067-0033.pdf

[GJinUK]

The bits that took my eye is that the condition can be caused by one of your meds.........

[TaoWarrior]

It has happened to me. I tried Cialis and it helps with the "staying power" but it didn't seem to help me finish.

My wife read some crap on the internet that said the only reason was because the man didn't love his wife anymore. That caused a couple weeks of ugly around here as you can imagine.

I would suspect drugs or the MS, anti-depresants are one of the worse for that kind of problem it's part of the reason I don't take them. Without knowing the drugs he's on I can't really say but even if I knew I probably couldn't say so many people react so differently to so many things.

[skreynolds57]

While ED drugs can help, it may also help to use some type of constricting device ("ring") to help maintain. Not the sort of thing most doctors will talk about. As for finishing the only thing that's helped me (besides getting off antidepressants) was using 4-AP (aka Ampyra is its new prescribable form). The improved nerve conduction while not being significant overall does help in that area.

Of course the biggest challenge was realizing its not about mindset, emotion or relationship to begin with. Its a medical problem and bringing those other things in, makes is more difficult to cope with.

[barryrado]

hi guys, Try ampyra, you will be shocked what else that little pill does barry

[monkle]

BamaAnegl: Thank you for bringing this up.

This is actually a question that I myself have had from the other end of the stick, as it were. I have not gone down the medical route to solve this (yet), but I have realized that I see a direct connection between this issue and overheating, at least for myself. If the room temperature is high to begin with, I might as well forget it.

Speaking for myself personally, it has nothing to do with my wife, and can be exceedingly frustrating. Sometimes it can be hard to not let my own strong emotions of frustration and embarrassment taint the situation, but I find when I can overcome them and stay cool (literally and figuratively), it can help keep from spoiling the moment. Sometimes all I need is a few minutes to cool down, but not "loosing my cool" is a necessity.

Again, thank you for being willing to bring this up.

[donnaps]

if your husband has lesions in the spine that can certainly cause this. Agree with everyone. don't think it is you. sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't. just hold on to each other and stay positive if you can.