I'm 29 and recently married. My husband and I are beginning to seriously think about starting a family. I had my first symptoms 2.5 years ago and a firm diagnosis a little over 2 years ago.
I did betaseron for 2 years but recently had a relapse and have switched to Copaxone 3 weeks ago.
Meanwhile, I'm at the age where ALL my friends are having kids. And, I'm really struggling. I feel like my healthy friends have it so easy. For instance, I'll see someone post an article about the miracles of breast feeding, the type of article that basically says you are a selfish mother if you don't breast feed. But, I can't help but think that these women posting these articles and extolling the wonders of breast feeding didn't have to make a choice between going back on DMDs vs breast feeding. My health vs my baby's health.
These sorts of things are getting me down. I try to keep some perspective, I do have a friend who is suffering from infertility. I watch the pain in her eyes when she sees yet another friend get pregnant.
But, the list of things to consider for before having children is so long yet MS makes it longer.
I want to be a good mother. But, I'm scared to go off drugs to get pregnant. I'm scared to not resume them so I can breast feed. I'm scared of how to waddle around pregnant with numb feet. I don't want to bring a baby into this world that I can't care for.
I know there is no way to predict anything with MS. For those of you that were diagnosed and on DMDs during childbearing times, how did you feel about making a decision?
What was your biggest concern?
How do you stop being jealous of your "healthy" friends?
I did betaseron for 2 years but recently had a relapse and have switched to Copaxone 3 weeks ago.
Meanwhile, I'm at the age where ALL my friends are having kids. And, I'm really struggling. I feel like my healthy friends have it so easy. For instance, I'll see someone post an article about the miracles of breast feeding, the type of article that basically says you are a selfish mother if you don't breast feed. But, I can't help but think that these women posting these articles and extolling the wonders of breast feeding didn't have to make a choice between going back on DMDs vs breast feeding. My health vs my baby's health.
These sorts of things are getting me down. I try to keep some perspective, I do have a friend who is suffering from infertility. I watch the pain in her eyes when she sees yet another friend get pregnant.
But, the list of things to consider for before having children is so long yet MS makes it longer.
I want to be a good mother. But, I'm scared to go off drugs to get pregnant. I'm scared to not resume them so I can breast feed. I'm scared of how to waddle around pregnant with numb feet. I don't want to bring a baby into this world that I can't care for.
I know there is no way to predict anything with MS. For those of you that were diagnosed and on DMDs during childbearing times, how did you feel about making a decision?
What was your biggest concern?
How do you stop being jealous of your "healthy" friends?
Comment