I want to feel pretty again.

[inmoni5]

Does anyone ever just feel as though they are not pretty anymore?

I don't have a low self-esteem but I just don't feel as though I am appealing anymore. I feel as though I'm broken merchandise.

I'm going to go to the salon and have a hair make-over. Do something completely different. Maybe that will make me feel better and not so blah.

I wish my DH would understand that a woman sometimes needs to feel pretty and that spending a little money here and there to accomplish that doesn't hurt a thing.

[Keepin_on]

I think every woman experiences that feeling, MS or not. You are not alone! There are days I feel exactly the same but I do what you are doing...get my hair done, buy a new outfit, or just do my makeup up all nice. I feel so much better.

Somtimes red lipstick and highlights just makes me feel like a lady

Don't worry inmoni5, you will never be broken merchandise! Men usually never understand these things about women (or why they cost so much ), this is why we are so confusing to them

[inmoni5]

Men usually never understand these things about women (or why they cost so much ), this is why we are so confusing to them

My DH is such a caveman that he's gonna FLIP when he finds out how much my hair cost. lol. 2 different colors of low-lights plus a whole new cut. Probably going to be about $150-200 before I'm done. Of course that includes some new make-up to go with the new hair color Just gotta wait until I can get into the salon.

He's used to me only getting my hair done every 3-6 months. And I color my own hair with box color from walmart. The last time I did that....I fried my hair....no more box color for meee!!!!

It's time that I start putting an effort into looking nice again. I've been in this darn MS slump for long enough.

[photomama]

I totally understand! I think we all feel that way sometimes. Guys don't really "get" it. They feel grubby and they take a shower, shave and feel like themselves again.

Good for you!!!!

I've been feeling yucky myself- the topamax I'm on for my hand tremor has been making me lose weight (yay for now), but I'm sorely in need of clothes (I have about three outfits I can wear now without feeling like frump-girl).

On top of that, it is killing my skin and making my hair fall out. Blech! I have masses of hair, so for now it is not a worry, but I sure don't feel pretty with nasty skin and hair.

[Keepin_on]

OMG, I concur on the box dye destroying the hair! Man, I just did it to save money before I was even dxd, now my hair is pissed!

My BF just looks at me in horror when I tell him what it costs when I go to the salon. I then freak him out and say "well I guess I could just shave it all off, while I am at it, I should probably get a breast reduction". LOL. He is quiet then.

[inmoni5]

UGH!! I am 33 broke as a joke. 3 kids and a not so dear DH. Add MS to the bunch and life cannot get much worse than this.

See sad part about it is my DH doesn't care what I look like. My hair is severly graying, my WHOLE wardrobe is frumpy. My face is broke out, pizza like. Can't even wear make-up anymore w/o a horrific break-out up to 2 wks after.

Boobs....HA...non existant. I am a MESS. grrrr. lol.

Whatever!

[cosake]

I've slowly become "frumpified" over the last years even before my MS diagnosis. I work with customers by phone and email so never have to dress up for work. Don't have to wear makeup (which is good because I have Rosacea and it gets aggravated from makeup).

I used to work at the bank, and always had a huge wardrobe of clothes, shoes and makeup always done. After my kids and new job, spent my money on them instead of myself.

Sometimes I miss looking nice and I know I look older than I am (40). My mom was carded for alcohol when she was 50 but I don't think I'll be that lucky.

But I also like to be comfortable. Especially with injection site reactions now. So, I wear jammy pants at home all of the time now. Hubby doesn't mind and is happy to know that I am comfortable.

Have fun on your get a new hairdo day !

[foxz71]

I guess I am lucky that my husband likes when i go to the salon and do the girly thing. He loves seeing me with my nails freshly painted and my hair fixed the way they do.

My problem is more about feeling like going. it takes 2 hours in the salon chair to do the hair. I feel like I am about to die by the end of it so I am going less these days.

I used to dress in stiletto heels too...god I miss those!!! I loved my heels. We used to go to the Casinos all decked out and it felt luxurious. ahhh the memories...

[Jules A]

In my case it is more about age than MS.

[Kraheera]

After two kids and the military? I am decidedly 'unpretty'. Cute, sure... but pretty? Hell no.

I really wish I knew how to be pretty, honestly. I was raised by my dad, and that was never at the top of his priority list.

[coffa]

One thing for sure is: you are not alone! I too am in the "frumpy" category. Can't seem to get out of it...it's so frustrating!

[MBC3mom]

I am in a real slump...feel like no amount of beauty treatments could make me attractive again

Well, I have gained 30 pounds in the last 2 years and can't seem to shed them ( I am over 50 and never had to really diet before ). Plus, aging...

What I wanted to share was the silliness of men on this issue...

My dh always told me he liked the natural look for a woman, no makeup, no nail polish, etc. So as a young woman, I could get away with this, but as I aged, I began to realize the women he thought were attractive were not as natural as he seemed to think LOL!

I was so shocked by how thrilled he was when I began using nail polish (especially on my toes!)

[jumpinjiminy]

My hubs would look at me like I was from Mars if I painted my nails. But he does have to say something nice everytime I do my hair and dress up a little, just to let me know he notices. He says he doesn't mind if I'm frumpified, but he also never says those things when I am. See. He like to 'think' he doesn't mind. But it leaks out other ways. LOL

My hair fell out from Topomax too. My hairdresser estimated about 2/3 of it fell out. It was over the course of 6 weeks, coming out like I'd been on chemo or something. It's now about 3 inches long all over my head, mostly in the front and around the edges. I could really see it this last time at the hairdressers. She hasn't had to thin the mop since the spring, but thinks she'll be pulling out the shears next visit. I don't think all of it is growing back, either. The pantyline tells the story there.

[Keepin_on]

I think I am losing some hair from rebif...or just from the total shock my body has gone through over the last few months. Good thing I have a ton of hair for now at least.

I was a total mess during and after steroids. Moonface anyone?? I hate roids... I couldn't even look at myself in the mirror for a few weeks.

It took a while to feel like i was makeup worthy. I got there, and now it makes me feel better. It makes me feel normal-ish. I do know now that I have too many lip glosses.

I think we all deserve a spa day!

The bf likes me with or without makeup I think....or he is scared to say one way or the other. I know I feel better when my eyebrows are plucked and mascara is on

[inmoni5]

I went and did the hair thingy on Saturday!! Colored it darker for winter and got it trimmed with a razor so it's chunky looking. I like it. It's not like the pic I picked out but....it'll work.

While I was at the salon my stylist told me to p/u a supplement for my hair called Biotin. She said it would help thinning hair and promote new hair growth?? Since my hair is baby fine and doesn't grow hardly at all....I'm getting some of that!!

She said it takes awhile to notice effects but it DOES work! She's had other clients that take it and have seen the difference.

I'm all over that band wagon!!