I think what a lot of people here are not understanding that for me ANY more complications related to this disease is a dark future that I do not want. The only future I want is one where I do not ever have another flare. (well my dream would be for this to be a misdiagnosis but if that can’t happen…) I don’t want to deal with any of the issues that this thing causes. I know a lot of people have similar issues when they are older but that is expected. It is not expected that someone who is not even 40 is going to one day wake up and need a cane to walk or be halfway blind in one eye.
I get that there are ways to “look on the bright side” and all of that but for me I just can’t see a bright side even with a second best case scenario. ( best case is never having another issue or a misdiagnosis). My jealousy of people who do not have this is horrible. I think that is a big part of why I don’t talk to anyone anymore because what do we have in common really?
I would LOVE to find actual statistics of people with this thing that never have to quit their job and actually live a full life and don’t need help walking or don’t have “cog fog”. I would google it but I know my history with good old dr google… Last time I tried that I found something that said 85% of people will eventually need assistance walking.
For me I am going to focus on my plan of working on my bucket list for as long as I can. I need to have a serious talk with my bf because as of right now I think we see the future very differently. It is not fair for me to stay with him if he cannot be on board with how I plan for things to go if it goes worst case. (and no again I am not talking about jumping off a bridge or doing something equally as messy… it is something I researched for a long time before deciding on it and knowing I have it as a back up as brought me a lot of peace.)
I really hope my new neurologist can give me some answers because right now not knowing anymore than I did a year ago is really getting to me.
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I get that there are ways to “look on the bright side” and all of that but for me I just can’t see a bright side even with a second best case scenario. ( best case is never having another issue or a misdiagnosis). My jealousy of people who do not have this is horrible. I think that is a big part of why I don’t talk to anyone anymore because what do we have in common really?
I would LOVE to find actual statistics of people with this thing that never have to quit their job and actually live a full life and don’t need help walking or don’t have “cog fog”. I would google it but I know my history with good old dr google… Last time I tried that I found something that said 85% of people will eventually need assistance walking.
For me I am going to focus on my plan of working on my bucket list for as long as I can. I need to have a serious talk with my bf because as of right now I think we see the future very differently. It is not fair for me to stay with him if he cannot be on board with how I plan for things to go if it goes worst case. (and no again I am not talking about jumping off a bridge or doing something equally as messy… it is something I researched for a long time before deciding on it and knowing I have it as a back up as brought me a lot of peace.)
I really hope my new neurologist can give me some answers because right now not knowing anymore than I did a year ago is really getting to me.
** Moderator's note - Post broken into paragraphs for easier reading. Many people with MS have visual difficulties that prevent them from reading large blocks of print. **
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