I have always been a take charge kind of person - not necessarily a control freak or anything - but one who does what's necessary when large family functions arise. Shopping and planning meals, cooking ahead, arranging family entertainment, etc. and enjoying it.
Well, my son, dil and 2 yr old granddaughter are here from Argentina. We only see them once a year and everyone wants to be here to celebrate their return. We have a large familywith adult children and grands. For once, I simply cannot be the take charge person and have decided to take a back seat. Maybe it wasn't my decision as evveryone has taken over the hostess role.
My house looks like a cyclone with toddler toys all over. The kitchen? oy vey! Nothing is in it's place and is in constant activity from breakfast, snack time, lunch and dinner. Dinner with anywhere from 7 to 11 or more.
This is such a first for me to simply let go.... and I've surprised myself by being comfortable with it and actually loving it. It lifted a weight off my shoulders worrying if there is enough to eat (there is!), clean enough ( not really but no one else cares, so why should I), and finding fun things to do for all. (this is a big one for me - sometimes jsut being together is enough fun) We don;t always have to be doing anything!
Now, I sit back watching all the buzz around me and play on the floor with all the grandkids. The rest do the cleaning and cooking and whatever. Isn;t that what grandma's are supposed to do anyway?
I wonder if anyone else has come to the realization that simply being is good enough than having to be in the middle of all the doing?
Well, my son, dil and 2 yr old granddaughter are here from Argentina. We only see them once a year and everyone wants to be here to celebrate their return. We have a large familywith adult children and grands. For once, I simply cannot be the take charge person and have decided to take a back seat. Maybe it wasn't my decision as evveryone has taken over the hostess role.
My house looks like a cyclone with toddler toys all over. The kitchen? oy vey! Nothing is in it's place and is in constant activity from breakfast, snack time, lunch and dinner. Dinner with anywhere from 7 to 11 or more.
This is such a first for me to simply let go.... and I've surprised myself by being comfortable with it and actually loving it. It lifted a weight off my shoulders worrying if there is enough to eat (there is!), clean enough ( not really but no one else cares, so why should I), and finding fun things to do for all. (this is a big one for me - sometimes jsut being together is enough fun) We don;t always have to be doing anything!
Now, I sit back watching all the buzz around me and play on the floor with all the grandkids. The rest do the cleaning and cooking and whatever. Isn;t that what grandma's are supposed to do anyway?
I wonder if anyone else has come to the realization that simply being is good enough than having to be in the middle of all the doing?
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