I thought occurred to me as I was reading some of the replies to the thread I started "What a hurtful thing to say". Some of the replies mentioned that my DW but in this case our DW/DH need their support system too. To be honest I hadn't thought of that before. But as I gave it some thought I recall some phone conversations my DW had and has with her close friends and sisters and they ask how I am doing. Her answer is always the same. "He's doing great." When in fact I may not be.
Now I know that is our typical answer for our own reasons but if she told them how I really was doing perhaps they may be supportive of her. They offer to lend a helping hand in any way they can. This may give her the support system she needs.
So I was wondering, how does your significant other reply when asked how you are doing? Are they up front as they can be without going into great detail? If so do they find that their friends and relatives are supportive and offer to lend a helping hand in any way they can?
I may way off on this and totally crazy but it was just thought. I was just thinking of a way to help her build her own support system. It doesn't bother me if she is up front with them. After all the truth is the truth. Just a thought.
Now I know that is our typical answer for our own reasons but if she told them how I really was doing perhaps they may be supportive of her. They offer to lend a helping hand in any way they can. This may give her the support system she needs.
So I was wondering, how does your significant other reply when asked how you are doing? Are they up front as they can be without going into great detail? If so do they find that their friends and relatives are supportive and offer to lend a helping hand in any way they can?
I may way off on this and totally crazy but it was just thought. I was just thinking of a way to help her build her own support system. It doesn't bother me if she is up front with them. After all the truth is the truth. Just a thought.
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