People want to help

[Thinkimjob]

After all these years of cracking hardy, I've stopped. And people are being genuinely lovely. Helpful, kind, etc.

It probably helps that I walk like a three-legged horse, but since swallowing my pride, and accepting help, life is so much easier.

Yesterday, a nice fellow got me a comfortable chair to sit on, instead of the usual back-breaking wooden bench. Didn't have to ask.

Day before, a lovely woman got me sandwiches, a cup of tea and a chair. Once (read last week) I would have said, "no, no, I'll be right."

Today, a man I'd never met carried my shopping across the road to my car, and a woman who is usually big on "you need to try to do more", carried the shopping in for me.

Either I look really, really bad or my new "yes, thank you so much for helping" policy is the way to go. Or possibly both.

[journeyman]

Open eyesl

It's so great that you see the positive side of humanity when there is so much darkness in the world today. It's people like your compassionate helpers that so override the bad stuff in the world.

I have noticed that there is a polarizing effect in the world today - the evil get even eviler, (?) and those who do good are getting better and making this a better place to live.

I'm a "closeted" sociologist. I love to study people and group behaviour.

I am so happy that some of these gold nuggets found you.

[mjan]

What a wonderful lesson you are sharing~thanks!!

We cannot stop others' generosity. They are earning their way to Heaven~ LOL

Jan

[ms er since 06]

I feel exactly the same way. Every time I leave my house people bend over backwards to help me every step of the way. By the time I get home I'm always in such a good mood. I never really knew how genuinely nice and helpful people are until I had MS.

I once said to my husband, "I must look a lot worse than I think I do." He said, "You do."

[limbo-lifer.73]

ms er since 06

You raise an interesting conundrum here.

Are people really being that nice, or am I really looking
that bad?

Geez, I really have no idea....and it bothers me to
have such cynicism. I've been saying to myself " I'm not
the damsel in distress type, I'm just stubborn".

Guess I'm really thinking it's probably both. And maybe
I really need to take another look in the mirror....the real
one, not the figurative one.

My DD says the worst mirrors for a "reality check" are in the
Target fitting rooms. Not sure if they tell no lies, or
exaggerate the worst truths, lol. Some looking glasses
don't get the best reputations in the literature.

me

[FL_Jhawk]

A lesson here for those of us who still have mild symptoms is to help those people that we can, while we can, as was described here.

[gomer]

Just 2 days ago I was in Meijer's (like a walmart) and a man was on a store power cart but things just did not look right. He had on foot off the cart, on the floor and looked like maybe the cart died. I rode over to him on my scooter to see if I could help.

His foot had slipped off and he was unable to get it back on the cart due to a stroke. So I took one hand and lifted his leg, placing his foot back on the cart. He very grateful and appreciated the help.

Even us handicappers can be handy sometimes.......

Gomer Sir Falls-a-lot

[Milhous]

It is hard to get over that hurdle of accepting help--blessings flow both ways. they feel good doing it and I have found people are very willing to help if you give them a indication of how to do it.

[mjan]

Just 2 days ago I was in Meijer's (like a walmart) and a man was on a store power cart but things just did not look right. He had on foot off the cart, on the floor and looked like maybe the cart died. I rode over to him on my scooter to see if I could help.

His foot had slipped off and he was unable to get it back on the cart due to a stroke. So I took one hand and lifted his leg, placing his foot back on the cart. He very grateful and appreciated the help.

Even us handicappers can be handy sometimes.......

Gomer Sir Falls-a-lot

Of course YOU would help another, while still on YOUR scooter!! Your observation helped this poor guy. All I can say, Gomer, is WHAT A GUY you are!! Hope others will help you as well~

Jan

[gomer]

mjan...

I was glad I could help.

YES, there have been times others have helped me. It's not been easy to adapt to accepting help either. STUBBORN me.

I am still learning to accept help now and then....(strange?)


Gomer Sir Falls-a-lot

[Mable]

Reach

I'm a new Dx and ambulatory. Whenever I see someone alone in one of those store carts, I take great interest now. I always ask if I can help them reach anything.

I have a relative in a wheelchair (not MS), and that seems like the biggest challenge to her with grocery shopping.

[Sara Angela]

I remember the first time a lady helped me at the store parking lot. I got in my car and cried and cried. I was always the one to help. I was so sad abot losing that.

My good friend said my main problem is pride... I still hate to ask for help, but try to remember I'm robbing others of the joy of helping!

Sara

[AnneLouise]

I'm still trying to swallow my pride.

I'm so willing to help others, even in my condition. But I have a lot of trouble accepting help.

[Sara Angela]

I'm right with you!

Sara

[ms er since 06]

I wouldn't accept help for a long time. Then someone explained to me that people WANT to help and it makes them feel good. I thought about that and realized that I was the one that was always helping others and it made me feel good!

So now when I'm out I just smile and say thank you. And I truly see their happiness. (It's also easier because when you say no thanks, I'm good, they insist and insist)!

And when you really think about it, it IS kind of icky to say no thank you!