Hi everyone?Ive been diagnosed for 4 months now, Ive had the normal problems that come along with MS for years but just finally figured out what is really wrong. Im a hair dresser and work in a very small town in a very small shop of only 3 people besides myself. Back in october I had a flare up, I lost my vision, and lost all feeling in my arm and leg. During all of this I went through all of those wonderful tests and was hospitalized. I continued to work and I will admit messed up a few haircuts(due to the fact I couldnt see) but my boss didnt want me to take any time off so I didnt.
When I was finally diagnosed I told my boss(thinking she had a right to know didnt find this website till after) We are a very close shop and I thought she would keep it to herself and understand (I WAS WRONG). Since this time I have gotten my eye sight back but still have the numbness along with fatigue and other things(this list goes on). And although I only messed up a total of 5 people (yes I keep track) and I am not messing up anymore....SHE HAS MADE MY LIFE A LIVING HELL!!!. She has told everyone in our little town about whats going on with me.
Everything is now my fault because I have MS (she has put it this way). She even says this in front of clients. There have been a few that have come in with messed up hair cuts but I KNOW I didnt do them but she insists I did. "Well remember your sick" Because she has told pretty much everyone who has walked into the salon I have lost quiet a few clients they look at me like I have the plague. Even though I feel I still can give a great haircut (just takes me a little longer). I dont know what to do. I didnt want to tell the whole world and feel if I want to tell one of my clients thats my buiness not hers. Im sick of dealing with her coments everyday a few examples are
"Well your slowing down you need to keep up" note the other day I did 19 people she did 10
"Your memories not good I know you forget everything so you just dont remember messing up that person"
"MS is the new diagnosis everyone has it I think doctors are just using that because its an easy diagnosis and they dont want to admit its something else plus they will make alot of money if you have it"
"Do you really want to have kids what sort of life are they going to have with you like this"
"Do you really think your fiance is going to stick around with you now that you have MS"
"They say my sister has it but she knows better because shes a nurse its just lymes"
"I dont think MS is real"
"Your only 23 your to young to have MS"
And the list goes on.... Point being I never expected her to tell the whole world, make everything my fault even though I know its not, and basically treat me the way she does. I probably have a mental breakdown once a week due to her and her friends nailing horrible things into my head. Im strong mentally but when this is shoved into my head everyday I start to lose it. My mother inlaw wants me to lie to her and tell her they misdisagnosed me and I have some sort of thyroid problem. I dont know what to do lie to her and maybe get her off my back or give her something else to get on me for. The cats out of the bag but I need some way to put it back in before I completely lose my sanity.
Sorry to vent. I know you are all thinking why dont you just quit, Ive mentioned leaving to her then her tune changes and my MS isnt affecting my work until the next day and it goes back. There arent many jobs around here and I need mine. But I dont need this mental torture and to go home everyday in tears. I dont know what to do any ideas??? Should I lie or not?
**Post broken into paragraphs by Moderator for easier reading. Many people with MS have visual difficulties that prevent them from reading large blocks of print.**
When I was finally diagnosed I told my boss(thinking she had a right to know didnt find this website till after) We are a very close shop and I thought she would keep it to herself and understand (I WAS WRONG). Since this time I have gotten my eye sight back but still have the numbness along with fatigue and other things(this list goes on). And although I only messed up a total of 5 people (yes I keep track) and I am not messing up anymore....SHE HAS MADE MY LIFE A LIVING HELL!!!. She has told everyone in our little town about whats going on with me.
Everything is now my fault because I have MS (she has put it this way). She even says this in front of clients. There have been a few that have come in with messed up hair cuts but I KNOW I didnt do them but she insists I did. "Well remember your sick" Because she has told pretty much everyone who has walked into the salon I have lost quiet a few clients they look at me like I have the plague. Even though I feel I still can give a great haircut (just takes me a little longer). I dont know what to do. I didnt want to tell the whole world and feel if I want to tell one of my clients thats my buiness not hers. Im sick of dealing with her coments everyday a few examples are
"Well your slowing down you need to keep up" note the other day I did 19 people she did 10
"Your memories not good I know you forget everything so you just dont remember messing up that person"
"MS is the new diagnosis everyone has it I think doctors are just using that because its an easy diagnosis and they dont want to admit its something else plus they will make alot of money if you have it"
"Do you really want to have kids what sort of life are they going to have with you like this"
"Do you really think your fiance is going to stick around with you now that you have MS"
"They say my sister has it but she knows better because shes a nurse its just lymes"
"I dont think MS is real"
"Your only 23 your to young to have MS"
And the list goes on.... Point being I never expected her to tell the whole world, make everything my fault even though I know its not, and basically treat me the way she does. I probably have a mental breakdown once a week due to her and her friends nailing horrible things into my head. Im strong mentally but when this is shoved into my head everyday I start to lose it. My mother inlaw wants me to lie to her and tell her they misdisagnosed me and I have some sort of thyroid problem. I dont know what to do lie to her and maybe get her off my back or give her something else to get on me for. The cats out of the bag but I need some way to put it back in before I completely lose my sanity.
Sorry to vent. I know you are all thinking why dont you just quit, Ive mentioned leaving to her then her tune changes and my MS isnt affecting my work until the next day and it goes back. There arent many jobs around here and I need mine. But I dont need this mental torture and to go home everyday in tears. I dont know what to do any ideas??? Should I lie or not?
**Post broken into paragraphs by Moderator for easier reading. Many people with MS have visual difficulties that prevent them from reading large blocks of print.**
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