Ok let me start by saying this in not a MS question. But I have come to trust in the opinion of my Online MS family.
If this gets booted I will understand but wanted to try anyway, so here goes,
I am looking for advice on initiating a meeting with a half sibling who in all likelyhood does not know I exist.
I am 7 yrs older then he is. My mother and his father did not continue a relationship much longer then a few months after she became pregnant with me. She married another man about 3 yrs after my birth and he adopted me about 2 yrs later.
I have only known my bfathers name all these years until a couple months ago when he passed from cancer. To which I found I have a half brother he is married.
My mother passed when I was young and I have no contact with my adoptive father by my choice due to severe abuse until about 4 yrs ago when I made the choice for myself and my family to get the garbage out of our lives.
K so I am looking for opinions on the situation. As my view is that life is so short do I initiate contact I am certain he doesnt know about me. Or let dead dogs lie?
I know his mother is still alive (wont get into the whole thing) But her and my bfather had long since divorced.
My mother and his/our father is gone. My husband says WRONG WRONG WRONG>>>Don't do it.
Myself, I have learned alot in my short time so far and think that anyone that would be terribly hurt are no longer with us and I would not be out anything if he had no interest.
concern, Still the potential to "stir the pot" but don't want to miss a potential opportunity. He lives just 10 min away.
ADVICE?????
If this gets booted I will understand but wanted to try anyway, so here goes,
I am looking for advice on initiating a meeting with a half sibling who in all likelyhood does not know I exist.
I am 7 yrs older then he is. My mother and his father did not continue a relationship much longer then a few months after she became pregnant with me. She married another man about 3 yrs after my birth and he adopted me about 2 yrs later.
I have only known my bfathers name all these years until a couple months ago when he passed from cancer. To which I found I have a half brother he is married.
My mother passed when I was young and I have no contact with my adoptive father by my choice due to severe abuse until about 4 yrs ago when I made the choice for myself and my family to get the garbage out of our lives.
K so I am looking for opinions on the situation. As my view is that life is so short do I initiate contact I am certain he doesnt know about me. Or let dead dogs lie?
I know his mother is still alive (wont get into the whole thing) But her and my bfather had long since divorced.
My mother and his/our father is gone. My husband says WRONG WRONG WRONG>>>Don't do it.
Myself, I have learned alot in my short time so far and think that anyone that would be terribly hurt are no longer with us and I would not be out anything if he had no interest.
concern, Still the potential to "stir the pot" but don't want to miss a potential opportunity. He lives just 10 min away.
ADVICE?????
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