...you have everything!" So what does that mean for the rest of us? That we have nothing!? I heard someone say it again on the news today, and decided this expression really bugs me! Is it even P.C.?
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Originally posted by Tawanda View Post...you have everything!" So what does that mean for the rest of us? That we have nothing!? I heard someone say it again on the news today, and decided this expression really bugs me! Is it even P.C.?
I've had to learn to accept life on life's terms and enjoy the simple things in life, and to be grateful for the abilities that I still have.
I try not to 'sweat the small stuff'.
Take CarePPMS for 26 years (dx 1998)
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Originally posted by Tawanda View Post...you have everything!" So what does that mean for the rest of us? That we have nothing!? I heard someone say it again on the news today, and decided this expression really bugs me! Is it even P.C.?
Hi Tawanda,
Are you perhaps a bit oversensitive?
Anyone with any ailment, chronic especially, will agree that all material things are so much rubbish compared to health.
It's adversity. It's another test. It's not nothing, but a quiet ongoing battle that even those closest to us cannot fully comprehend.
This axiom shouldn't be elevated to a source of discord. ie; No P.C. police.
J
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Originally posted by 502E79 View PostHi Tawanda,
Are you perhaps a bit oversensitive?Tawanda
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If you have your health,you have everything?
It's a phrase; nothing more, nothing less.
To me, it indicates that good health is valuable. IMO, it's an exaggerated statement.
I have so much more.
- I have a husband and we've stuck it out through better and through worse.
- I have two adult kids with good hearts; they care about other people.
- I have two grandsons that I adore.
- I have friends, I have a support system, I have blessings.
- I have memories -- of a career I loved, of a childhood with parents who loved me, etc.
If I had my health without many of these additional blessings, I wouldn't have "everything".
Tawanda If you wish to allow that phrase to bother you, that's your choice. I choose, instead, to assume that someone is simply expressing their gratitude for their own good health. Nothing more. Their gratitude doesn't reflect on my worth or lack of it.~ Faith
MSWorld Volunteer -- Moderator since JUN2012
(now a Mimibug)
Symptoms began in JAN02
- Dx with RRMS in OCT03, following 21 months of limbo, ruling out lots of other dx, and some "probable stroke" and "probable CNS" dx for awhile.
- In 2008, I was back in limbo briefly, then re-dx w/ MS: JUL08.
- Betaseron NOV03-AUG08; Copaxone20 SEPT08-APR15; Copaxone40 APR15-present
- Began receiving SSDI / LTD NOV08. Not employed. I volunteer in my church and community.
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Originally posted by Mamabug View PostI have so much more.
- I have a husband and we've stuck it out through better and through worse.
- I have two adult kids with good hearts; they care about other people.
- I have two grandsons that I adore.
- I have friends, I have a support system, I have blessings.
- I have memories -- of a career I loved, of a childhood with parents who loved me, etc.
If I had my health without many of these additional blessings, I wouldn't have "everything".1st sx '89 Dx '99 w/RRMS - SP since 2010
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Originally posted by Tawanda View PostYes!!! Or at the very least I am "thin-skinned" about my "condition". I also don't like hearing about somebody "suffering" with MS...or that they are a "victim" of MS (unless, of course, there are plenty of MS funding dollars at stake !). Perhaps I am living in denial?All the best, ~G
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I’ve never liked it. But I think that most sayings are pretty stupid, so...🤣
It’s a way to tell people who are feeling sorry for themselves that they have it better than... me? And simply because I have MS, I’m the benchmark for where it gets really crappy? “Hey, you have it bad, but at least you’re not as low as her.”
I don’t know who came up with that statement. Maybe it was an older person who was talking to a young, healthy person who was complaining about life. The old guy was thinking that bad stuff keeps happening to old people, too, but now they have arthritis on top of the taxes being due. Or something like that.
That’s a guess, and I think that’s what it really means. But these sayings always point to a group to compare to. And that group is standing there going, Hey! 🤣
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Originally posted by MMMMS View PostBut these sayings always point to a group to compare to. And that group is standing there going, Hey! 🤣Tawanda
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This is an example of a thread where I have learned something.
Or maybe better said; It's refreshing to hear all the diversity of opinion, not only expressed civilly but reflective of MSW.
People helping people.
The opinions expressed, all who responded, may be more insightful, deeper, heartfelt, than any outlier attempting an answer.
Thanks Tawanda!
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A little late to this conversation. The saying doesn't really bother me.
I tend to look at it that if you have good health, then you have a lot to be grateful for. It leaves all doors open to you in life.
If you have health issues, it is not that you can't have everything, just that it may be a harder road. And depending if terminal versus chronic conditions, the road is different.
And the term "everything" can be subjective. MS has forced me to slow down and notice the smaller things in life. Things I might not have thought twice about before are really important now. So these little things might not be on a healthy person's everything, but it is part of my everything!Kathy
DX 01/06, currently on Tysabri
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Good point!
Originally posted by pennstater View PostA little late to this conversation. The saying doesn't really bother me.
I tend to look at it that if you have good health, then you have a lot to be grateful for. It leaves all doors open to you in life.
If you have health issues, it is not that you can't have everything, just that it may be a harder road. And depending if terminal versus chronic conditions, the road is different.
And the term "everything" can be subjective. MS has forced me to slow down and notice the smaller things in life. Things I might not have thought twice about before are really important now. So these little things might not be on a healthy person's everything, but it is part of my everything!
Thanks for all the good input on this Y'all!Tawanda
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