Every July, my son, 13 and on autism spectrum, goes to autism camp. It's an amazing place and he looks forward to it all year. Plus, my husband and I get 5 days alone. My husband's parents used to live near the camp (in NC). It was great. We stayed with them and always had a good time. Now, my husband's mom is deceased and his dad lives near us in Tennessee.
Since we don't have family to stay with, we go to my hometown (about 2 hrs away) and stay with friends. It's great, but the heat and being on the run, trying to meet up with family and friends is exhausting. I have to see my narcissitic mom who is always mean to me and my brother. My mom continually asks why I have to nap and rest so much. I tell her every time it's MS fatigue. Her response is, "Is that your excuse for being so lazy in High School". I wasn't lazy in HS, nor was I in college, nor am I now. She expects me to visit her in her assited living every day we are there. After spending time with her I am mentally and physically beat. I LOVE getting together with friends and my brother's family. We are just going through some really rough stuff with my mom. She's out of control.
So, to summarize: Son loves camp, it's worth it to feel tired, have blurry eyes, pain, and having to use a cane when I get to spend time with my favorite people. Dread visiting my mom. Vacation=exhaustion and stress. No one really understands the level of exhaustion, least of all, my mom.
How do I get past the bad stuff in order to enjoy my time with friends and family I only see once a year?
Since we don't have family to stay with, we go to my hometown (about 2 hrs away) and stay with friends. It's great, but the heat and being on the run, trying to meet up with family and friends is exhausting. I have to see my narcissitic mom who is always mean to me and my brother. My mom continually asks why I have to nap and rest so much. I tell her every time it's MS fatigue. Her response is, "Is that your excuse for being so lazy in High School". I wasn't lazy in HS, nor was I in college, nor am I now. She expects me to visit her in her assited living every day we are there. After spending time with her I am mentally and physically beat. I LOVE getting together with friends and my brother's family. We are just going through some really rough stuff with my mom. She's out of control.
So, to summarize: Son loves camp, it's worth it to feel tired, have blurry eyes, pain, and having to use a cane when I get to spend time with my favorite people. Dread visiting my mom. Vacation=exhaustion and stress. No one really understands the level of exhaustion, least of all, my mom.
How do I get past the bad stuff in order to enjoy my time with friends and family I only see once a year?
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