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Originally posted by Daisycat View PostI really don't know how to. I have tried all the regular things and nothing helps. Right now keeping my mind of it seems to be helping but it is always there in the back of my mind reminding me that I am no longer "normal" and I will miss out on things because of it.~ Faith
MSWorld Volunteer -- Moderator since JUN2012
(now a Mimibug)
Symptoms began in JAN02
- Dx with RRMS in OCT03, following 21 months of limbo, ruling out lots of other dx, and some "probable stroke" and "probable CNS" dx for awhile.
- In 2008, I was back in limbo briefly, then re-dx w/ MS: JUL08.
- Betaseron NOV03-AUG08; Copaxone20 SEPT08-APR15; Copaxone40 APR15-present
- Began receiving SSDI / LTD NOV08. Not employed. I volunteer in my church and community.
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Originally posted by Mamabug View PostConsider therapy to deal with grief and loss, to set goals for the future, to learn how to accept the things you cannot change.Kathy
DX 01/06, currently on Tysabri
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Originally posted by pennstater View PostThat's what I did. And many have. Seeing a therapist experienced with chronic, progessive diseases really helped. I was thinking of going for a quick booster visit, but she retired. Have to find a new one.
Support is so important. It's one of those resiliency strategies that you hear me talk about.
I've also been a part of a small group for almost 30 years. Although, over the years, the members have changed sometimes, our current group is six women who have been consistent members for over 10 years. We meet every other week to share about our lives and to pray for, and with, each other.
I started when I was age 27 and my daughter was a newborn. They've seen me through parenting babies, toddlers, preschoolers, kids in school (losing my mom to cancer, getting MS and coping), and kids in high school. Through ups and downs in my marriage, followed by stability. Also through kids in college, empty nest, a returning boomerang kid, my daughter's marriage, and now grandchildren.
Something else I've started recently is making a monthly appointment with a certified peer specialist.
She is someone that I knew and respected already. Initially, I went to her just two times in about a year -- to talk about situations that I was adjusting to. One of those visits was in February, after I started using a cane.
But she's just so calming and reassuring that I decided to make a monthly appointment, just for general self care.
She said one of her clients told her, "Some people get a pedi once a month. I come to see Marva."
Everyone needs support.~ Faith
MSWorld Volunteer -- Moderator since JUN2012
(now a Mimibug)
Symptoms began in JAN02
- Dx with RRMS in OCT03, following 21 months of limbo, ruling out lots of other dx, and some "probable stroke" and "probable CNS" dx for awhile.
- In 2008, I was back in limbo briefly, then re-dx w/ MS: JUL08.
- Betaseron NOV03-AUG08; Copaxone20 SEPT08-APR15; Copaxone40 APR15-present
- Began receiving SSDI / LTD NOV08. Not employed. I volunteer in my church and community.
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Originally posted by Mamabug View PostConsider therapy to deal with grief and loss, to set goals for the future, to learn how to accept the things you cannot change.
I talked to a grief/illness therapist we have through a work program. It didn’t really seem to hemp since at the end of everything I still have this.
ive tried setting goals. Right now it’s weight loss since that’s all I feel I can control. Work related goals depress me
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Originally posted by Daisycat View PostI talked to a grief/illness therapist we have through a work program. It didn’t really seem to hemp since at the end of everything I still have this.
I encourage you to change your expectations. A therapist can help you to deal with grief and loss, to set additional goals for the future, and to learn how to accept the things you cannot change.
Of course, at the end of your appointment, you still have this. That comment just indicates to me that you haven't accepted it yet. That is exactly why you could benefit from therapy -- not why you don't need it.~ Faith
MSWorld Volunteer -- Moderator since JUN2012
(now a Mimibug)
Symptoms began in JAN02
- Dx with RRMS in OCT03, following 21 months of limbo, ruling out lots of other dx, and some "probable stroke" and "probable CNS" dx for awhile.
- In 2008, I was back in limbo briefly, then re-dx w/ MS: JUL08.
- Betaseron NOV03-AUG08; Copaxone20 SEPT08-APR15; Copaxone40 APR15-present
- Began receiving SSDI / LTD NOV08. Not employed. I volunteer in my church and community.
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Originally posted by Daisycat View PostI talked to a grief/illness therapist we have through a work program. It didn’t really seem to hemp since at the end of everything I still have this.
ive tried setting goals. Right now it’s weight loss since that’s all I feel I can control. Work related goals depress me
But you have to want it. Again, your choice how you want to live your life now that CIS/MS is in it.Kathy
DX 01/06, currently on Tysabri
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Originally posted by pennstater View PostGlad you spoke thru a work program. But the goal is not to change your diagnosis, but to get you to a healthy place mentally that you can coexist with it ...
....~ Faith
MSWorld Volunteer -- Moderator since JUN2012
(now a Mimibug)
Symptoms began in JAN02
- Dx with RRMS in OCT03, following 21 months of limbo, ruling out lots of other dx, and some "probable stroke" and "probable CNS" dx for awhile.
- In 2008, I was back in limbo briefly, then re-dx w/ MS: JUL08.
- Betaseron NOV03-AUG08; Copaxone20 SEPT08-APR15; Copaxone40 APR15-present
- Began receiving SSDI / LTD NOV08. Not employed. I volunteer in my church and community.
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I just don’t know how I can coexist with this thing. I’ve lost so much these past 14 months. I feel like there really isn’t much of a point in things since my life is work, work out, study on a topic to keep my mind sharp, work out again, and eat a small amount at some point:
i miss being able to sleep in and go out for decent tasting food or just taking a night off working out to just watch tv.
i feel like I have to give 120% into this healthy lifestyle to stay alive. (If that makes sense )
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Originally posted by Daisycat View PostI just don’t know how I can coexist with this thing. I’ve lost so much these past 14 months. I feel like there really isn’t much of a point in things since my life is work, work out, study on a topic to keep my mind sharp, work out again, and eat a small amount at some point:
i miss being able to sleep in and go out for decent tasting food or just taking a night off working out to just watch tv.
i feel like I have to give 120% into this healthy lifestyle to stay alive. (If that makes sense )
I am holding still my breath for any shred of research that shows smoking cigarettes has some benefit to our health because I loved smoking more than eating, sigh.He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion.
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Jules
i used to believe in moderation, but now it terrifies me.
id never be able to live with myself if I ate something I enjoyed and woke up with double vision.
At least I’m almost at my goal weight...
and im right there with you about cigarettes. I think I miss them more than chick fil la or Mexican food.
I’m the weirdo who has to smell the dog that comes into the vet and smells like smoke because I miss cigarettes so much.
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id never be able to live with myself if I ate something I enjoyed and woke up with double vision. [/QUOTE]
If it makes you feel any better the first bout of double vision I had was when I was on the freaking Atkins diet so it definitely wasn't bon-bons that made my eyes go wonky.
I was a normal weight but never minded being thinner so I was doing it with a friend for support. I thought I must have gotten myself all out of whack with the ketones so I stopped the diet but unfortunately the double vision plus nystagmus came back with a vengeance several months later.
Bottom line I think an overall healthy diet is probably sufficient.He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion.
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Originally posted by Daisycat View Postid never be able to live with myself if I ate something I enjoyed and woke up with double vision.
I'm all for moderation. Unless you're going for a pretty restrictive diet, such as my gluten and dairy free diet.~ Faith
MSWorld Volunteer -- Moderator since JUN2012
(now a Mimibug)
Symptoms began in JAN02
- Dx with RRMS in OCT03, following 21 months of limbo, ruling out lots of other dx, and some "probable stroke" and "probable CNS" dx for awhile.
- In 2008, I was back in limbo briefly, then re-dx w/ MS: JUL08.
- Betaseron NOV03-AUG08; Copaxone20 SEPT08-APR15; Copaxone40 APR15-present
- Began receiving SSDI / LTD NOV08. Not employed. I volunteer in my church and community.
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Originally posted by Mamabug View PostI truly believe that the stress that comes with "going 120%" is much more likely to trigger an MS flare than Mexican food or Chick filet.He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion.
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