Hi all! It seems to me that I continue to get well meaning advice from friends and acquaintenances offering solutions to cure my MS. This includes a variety of solutions from stem cell options, the various drug therapies, all the many diets (Best Bet, Vegan, Wahl, etc.), different vitamins or supplements, no fluoride in water, more exercise, less stress (including “just quit your job”), and the list goes on and on.
I was explaining to a family member the other day that while appreciate all the new findings and remedies for improving life with MS, there is really no known cure.
I also shared with my family member that these constant comments make me feel that I am the cause (or that they see me as the reason) of still having this disease. Because if I just did ______ (fill in the blank from the long list), then I would no longer have MS. It is especially frustrating when I am told that they knew someone that “changed their diet” or “did stem cells treatment”, etc. and no longer have MS. Of course, I am then asked why I don't do _____....as if it is all really that simple.
I am interested to hear how others feel about these comments. Perhaps this is bothering me right now as I have heard quite a number of these from friends recently, probably because my recent flare has made my MS more obvious (using a cane and visible walking and fatigue issues.)
Of course, I kindly reply and thank them for their ideas, but inside it gets to me that they think we MSers are choosing to still have this disease because we haven’t done ____. (Fill in any one of the many simple solutions to fix/cure MS.)
I look forward to hearing your thought on this. To be honest, mostly so I don’t feel alone in being a bit annoyed from time to time. I wish my friends would take time to better understand or ask me about this disease instead of making assumptions.
Thanks alll! MGM
I was explaining to a family member the other day that while appreciate all the new findings and remedies for improving life with MS, there is really no known cure.
I also shared with my family member that these constant comments make me feel that I am the cause (or that they see me as the reason) of still having this disease. Because if I just did ______ (fill in the blank from the long list), then I would no longer have MS. It is especially frustrating when I am told that they knew someone that “changed their diet” or “did stem cells treatment”, etc. and no longer have MS. Of course, I am then asked why I don't do _____....as if it is all really that simple.
I am interested to hear how others feel about these comments. Perhaps this is bothering me right now as I have heard quite a number of these from friends recently, probably because my recent flare has made my MS more obvious (using a cane and visible walking and fatigue issues.)
Of course, I kindly reply and thank them for their ideas, but inside it gets to me that they think we MSers are choosing to still have this disease because we haven’t done ____. (Fill in any one of the many simple solutions to fix/cure MS.)
I look forward to hearing your thought on this. To be honest, mostly so I don’t feel alone in being a bit annoyed from time to time. I wish my friends would take time to better understand or ask me about this disease instead of making assumptions.
Thanks alll! MGM
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