I just had an argument with my husband about something not connected to ms and at the end he says "you should have no say in your situation,if i was the one with ms you would leave me i know that so be grateful" in other words be grateful i am not leaving you because of ms(i understood it so).I stopped talking to him after that this is the 2 time he uses my ms in arguments last time he said God gave you this for a reason then he apologized and promised he would never do it again,that he wishes it happened to him well here it is again.What to do? Our fights are mostly because i have no job now and he finds me lazy?!
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Originally posted by Medina89 View PostI just had an argument with my husband about something not connected to ms and at the end he says "you should have no say in your situation,if i was the one with ms you would leave me i know that so be grateful" in other words be grateful i am not leaving you because of ms(i understood it so).I stopped talking to him after that this is the 2 time he uses my ms in arguments last time he said God gave you this for a reason then he apologized and promised he would never do it again,that he wishes it happened to him well here it is again.What to do? Our fights are mostly because i have no job now and he finds me lazy?!
I know I would be upset if my husband hung MS over my head. Once both of you have calmed down, and you discuss it again, I would let him know that he made a promise and broke it. Remind him that you didn't choose to have MS. If he resents the MS and is taking it out on you, you may want to consider counseling so that you both learn to live with MS in your lives. If he isn't willing, it may be worth you just getting counseling. It may help you determine how you want to deal with your husband if he continues down this path.
Really hoping things get better for you.Kathy
DX 01/06, currently on Tysabri
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Funny how my Ex girlfriend said things like you don't get special treatment cause you have MS. Sure, I get it but all I expected was her family at dinner for at least 1 of them to ask how I was doing, that is all. I've recovered so well it seems everyone thinks I'm cured and back 2 normal.
My good male male friends even drop me a line from time 2 time to ask how I'm doing and that's all I ask for.
But my relationship was toxic causing me too much stress, now I'm looking to get a quiet peaceful place of my own to live by my school and pursue a occupation that is better suited for me stress wise, plus I don't feel comfortable on scaffolding anymore.
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Originally posted by Medina89 View PostI just had an argument with my husband about something not connected to ms and at the end he says "you should have no say in your situation,if i was the one with ms you would leave me i know that so be grateful" in other words be grateful i am not leaving you because of ms(i understood it so).I stopped talking to him after that this is the 2 time he uses my ms in arguments last time he said God gave you this for a reason then he apologized and promised he would never do it again,that he wishes it happened to him well here it is again.What to do? Our fights are mostly because i have no job now and he finds me lazy?!All the best, ~G
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Originally posted by Ant1981 View PostFunny how my Ex girlfriend said things like you don't get special treatment cause you have MS. Sure, I get it but all I expected was her family at dinner for at least 1 of them to ask how I was doing, that is all. I've recovered so well it seems everyone thinks I'm cured and back 2 normal.
My good male male friends even drop me a line from time 2 time to ask how I'm doing and that's all I ask for.
But my relationship was toxic causing me too much stress, now I'm looking to get a quiet peaceful place of my own to live by my school and pursue a occupation that is better suited for me stress wise, plus I don't feel comfortable on scaffolding anymore.
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Originally posted by Medina89 View PostOur fights are mostly because i have no job now and he finds me lazy?!
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