I have MS for 13 years I am a 61 year old Veterinarian. I still work full time although my ability to stand for greater than 5 minutes is becoming a challenge. My wife is 12 years younger than and extremely beautiful. She is separating from me tomorrow. Almost all the reasons she is leaving point the finger at me. I provided for her so she could be a homemaker and raise our children. I poured myself passionately into my work to provide for my family of five children. I focused too much on this and not enough time on love and cherishing her. I threw material things at her like expensive clothes and expensive cars. I love being with her seeing her everyday going to dinner and staying weekends in NYC. But she says the fundamentals of our love was lacking for her. My MS seems to have robbed me of my sexuality and that is probably the biggest reason why she is leaving.
It is so hard to see her go. I would have done anything to save this marriage but it appears the more I try the more angry she becomes. The thought of fighting this disease alone is making me more depressed than I thought possible. The prospect of looking for assisted leaving alone in the next few years frightens me. I realize it was so selfish of me to expect my wife to stay through the coming trying years if I did not nurture the marriage.
Anyone out there who is ruining a loving relationship by selfishness or self involvement with their disease. Your partner is there with you right now. Love them for staying hold them close. Don't push them away because you have allowed MS to control you as I have done. I cannot recover 23 years of Marriage no matter how much I wish. I just wanted to say loving partners are rare. Love them too. Do not realize too late like me that you had something special that would have made the end stages of MS so less scary.
It is so hard to see her go. I would have done anything to save this marriage but it appears the more I try the more angry she becomes. The thought of fighting this disease alone is making me more depressed than I thought possible. The prospect of looking for assisted leaving alone in the next few years frightens me. I realize it was so selfish of me to expect my wife to stay through the coming trying years if I did not nurture the marriage.
Anyone out there who is ruining a loving relationship by selfishness or self involvement with their disease. Your partner is there with you right now. Love them for staying hold them close. Don't push them away because you have allowed MS to control you as I have done. I cannot recover 23 years of Marriage no matter how much I wish. I just wanted to say loving partners are rare. Love them too. Do not realize too late like me that you had something special that would have made the end stages of MS so less scary.
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