Hi everyone. I am 50 (almost 51), was dx with RRMS in Jan. 2000. Been on Rebif since 2001. Live alone (well, with my cats); my two boys are grown with families of their own. One lives in state, one out of state. No other family. I retired from my 26 year job with the state 2 years ago.
My issue is: I last dated (was a friend, someone I knew and worked with for 20 years) in 2009. He never knew I have MS--and I had a bit more energy than I do lately. We stopped dating, but remained friends. Anyway, another friend I've known about 8 years (also does not know about the MS) recently took me out for daytime coffee twice and dinner once. He is very much a gentleman (we did kiss after the dinner and went our separate ways). He sends me "good morning" and "goodnight, sleep well" texts...like I said above, we've known each other 8 years.
Then...he just sent me a txt asking if he invited me to his home for coffee or to watch a movie, would I go. I replied "I might do that". And, true to form, now I'm feeling very nervous. The friend I dated (in 2009), we went to dinner a few times, and he came by my house a few times. That stopped in 2009, and time has gone by to say the least. I don't have a lot of energy, don't go to a gym, feels out of my element--and I don't know what to do. I trust him completely (he is a retired law enforcement officer)....but again, he doesn't know I have MS.
Say I go to his home for a movie (I don't invite people over to my home since my house is needing some work done and I feel a little embarrassed. Not to mention I have cats, and they tend to demand attention, affection.). What happens if he becomes affectionate....maybe wanting more than kissing? (This sounds so silly as I'm typing...) I have some bruising/red marks where my shots are on my stomach and upper/outer thighs....so he'd probably ask what those are. And I'm not as limber/tone as I used to be.
How do I handle this? I enjoyed going to coffee and dinner with him, we've known each other 8 years (he works security at the building I used to work in), he's very much a gentleman, he's 51. But I am afraid....and shy....
Thank you for reading this, and any guidance.....sorry it's so long.
My issue is: I last dated (was a friend, someone I knew and worked with for 20 years) in 2009. He never knew I have MS--and I had a bit more energy than I do lately. We stopped dating, but remained friends. Anyway, another friend I've known about 8 years (also does not know about the MS) recently took me out for daytime coffee twice and dinner once. He is very much a gentleman (we did kiss after the dinner and went our separate ways). He sends me "good morning" and "goodnight, sleep well" texts...like I said above, we've known each other 8 years.
Then...he just sent me a txt asking if he invited me to his home for coffee or to watch a movie, would I go. I replied "I might do that". And, true to form, now I'm feeling very nervous. The friend I dated (in 2009), we went to dinner a few times, and he came by my house a few times. That stopped in 2009, and time has gone by to say the least. I don't have a lot of energy, don't go to a gym, feels out of my element--and I don't know what to do. I trust him completely (he is a retired law enforcement officer)....but again, he doesn't know I have MS.
Say I go to his home for a movie (I don't invite people over to my home since my house is needing some work done and I feel a little embarrassed. Not to mention I have cats, and they tend to demand attention, affection.). What happens if he becomes affectionate....maybe wanting more than kissing? (This sounds so silly as I'm typing...) I have some bruising/red marks where my shots are on my stomach and upper/outer thighs....so he'd probably ask what those are. And I'm not as limber/tone as I used to be.
How do I handle this? I enjoyed going to coffee and dinner with him, we've known each other 8 years (he works security at the building I used to work in), he's very much a gentleman, he's 51. But I am afraid....and shy....
Thank you for reading this, and any guidance.....sorry it's so long.
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