So I am at the probable MS stage and my boyfriend has severe Fibromyalgia. We are long distance at the moment and met because each of us had youtube videos about our diseases. We were friends since June and then became facebook friends in November, he saw my status as in a relationship, and got a little sad. I had it that way to shut people out, keep the guys away. Anyways, he realized his feelings were more and my feelings had grown stronger by that point too.
I am going to visit him the last week of march, he is in Illinois, I'm in California. The journey is gonna suck but its so worth it.
Here's the problem. We are two very intelligent adults in our early 30'. We talked about all the things that could happen in the future with our diseases, mine especially. It has been very aggressive the past two years so he is expecting more of the same. I told him I need treatment, I could do very well on treatment and to just hang in there. I know he does, we care very deeply for each other.
It's his mom always saying she's gonna get worse and you are sick too, what can you handle, you need to find a healthy nice woman in her 40's, no kids, that can take care of you. I think all of her talk about me getting worse and the fact that I have 7 year old are getting to him. He is getting scared that it's gonna be hard and struggle,never ending drama. I know he loves me, I wish his mom would stop planting seeds.
What do you guys think, is one disabled person dating another just asking for hard times. Is it a bad idea? One thing I do know is that this man understands me more than anyone else and he wouldn't get mad when I have bad days because he knows its not my fault, everyone else in my life gets mad at me when I am sick like its my fault, like I brought this on myself.
I am going to visit him the last week of march, he is in Illinois, I'm in California. The journey is gonna suck but its so worth it.
Here's the problem. We are two very intelligent adults in our early 30'. We talked about all the things that could happen in the future with our diseases, mine especially. It has been very aggressive the past two years so he is expecting more of the same. I told him I need treatment, I could do very well on treatment and to just hang in there. I know he does, we care very deeply for each other.
It's his mom always saying she's gonna get worse and you are sick too, what can you handle, you need to find a healthy nice woman in her 40's, no kids, that can take care of you. I think all of her talk about me getting worse and the fact that I have 7 year old are getting to him. He is getting scared that it's gonna be hard and struggle,never ending drama. I know he loves me, I wish his mom would stop planting seeds.
What do you guys think, is one disabled person dating another just asking for hard times. Is it a bad idea? One thing I do know is that this man understands me more than anyone else and he wouldn't get mad when I have bad days because he knows its not my fault, everyone else in my life gets mad at me when I am sick like its my fault, like I brought this on myself.
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