My father passed away unexpectantly. I got the call from my mother and within a short time, my husband and I had started on the 8 hour drive. My parents were married 54 years. Their friends were stopping by and calling one after the other. They were wonderful and willing to help in anyway they could.
One of the problems is that some of the family involved are all for themselves. I'm sick of the whining and complaining. It all has to be how they want things handled. They just don't get it. It isn't about them. Yes, they lost someone too but my mother lost her husband. All of their children's lives have moved on. None of us have lived at home for more than twenty years. My husband and I have been running interfearance making sure my parents wishes are carried out. I know my father would have wanted this. For the life of me, I can't figure out why their wishes aren't a concern to others.
I am exhausted, in terrible pain, unable to sleep, etc. MS is making its presence known in more ways than I can count at the moment. I feel like I haven't had time to even catch my breath let alone begin to greive. My husband drove us the 8 hour trip back. Driving is so hard on me. The man has been wonderful through all this. Tomorrow will be filled with more phone calls that need to be made on my Mom's behalf. I'm happy that I can help her but for those that are only causing drama-enough!
Please remember that if you find yourself in times like these, it doesn't matter if you don't like the way something is worded or you want something done differently, it is important to support and follow the wishes of the one that has passed on.
One of the problems is that some of the family involved are all for themselves. I'm sick of the whining and complaining. It all has to be how they want things handled. They just don't get it. It isn't about them. Yes, they lost someone too but my mother lost her husband. All of their children's lives have moved on. None of us have lived at home for more than twenty years. My husband and I have been running interfearance making sure my parents wishes are carried out. I know my father would have wanted this. For the life of me, I can't figure out why their wishes aren't a concern to others.
I am exhausted, in terrible pain, unable to sleep, etc. MS is making its presence known in more ways than I can count at the moment. I feel like I haven't had time to even catch my breath let alone begin to greive. My husband drove us the 8 hour trip back. Driving is so hard on me. The man has been wonderful through all this. Tomorrow will be filled with more phone calls that need to be made on my Mom's behalf. I'm happy that I can help her but for those that are only causing drama-enough!
Please remember that if you find yourself in times like these, it doesn't matter if you don't like the way something is worded or you want something done differently, it is important to support and follow the wishes of the one that has passed on.
, T2B
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