I haven't been on here for a very long time!
I was dx with MS about 5 years ago, when I was 40 years old. I would say I have a pretty mild case, with some things happening on and off. Mostly I just feel hungover from day to day and tired.
My husband and I have been married almost 20 years, but now are in the process of divorce (his choice, but I agree). I have been employed part time for about 7 years, but was employed full time before that. At first it was to balance my work/life and take care of our 3 children and household, then as I grew more tired from the MS, I just felt fortunate that I could work part time. I was told by a phone consultation lawyer and the lawyer I eventually hired, that because of my MS and the length of time of our marriage I should be able to receive permanent spousal support. I never really considered myself "disabled", but I really am tuckered out! I question my ability to work full time and still enjoy regular life. I just want me and my children to be able to stay in this house and neighborhood they grew up in (and with neighbors I love and trust) until they are out of school. Is that so much to ask? I NEED that spousal support to do this.
Well now my husbands lawyer is making me do a vocational assessment and says I have to go back to work full time. I am so angry. I am worried that if I go back to work full time and am not able to handle it, or end up disabled in a couple years, I am hosed! I'll end up without a job, without health benefits to pay for that $4000 copaxone and those $4000 MRIs, and without an income! I could go on disability, but it would not be near what I would get in spousal support. Of course my lawyer is not in agreement with this, but lets be real, I only have so much money to pay a lawyer! Luckily I took out legal plan insurance from work, so that is paying a lot of it, but I am practically having anxiety attacks worrying about how much more it could cost when my free hours are up.
I am so angry about this. Has anyone else gone through this? What do I do? As you all know, with MS - I may be fine today, but could wake up next week with vision problems or unable to walk, etc.
UGH! I have so much HATE in me right now I know it is not good for me or my MS. Of course, if something MS related was going to happen, now would be the right time I guess. I'm so sad.
I was dx with MS about 5 years ago, when I was 40 years old. I would say I have a pretty mild case, with some things happening on and off. Mostly I just feel hungover from day to day and tired.
My husband and I have been married almost 20 years, but now are in the process of divorce (his choice, but I agree). I have been employed part time for about 7 years, but was employed full time before that. At first it was to balance my work/life and take care of our 3 children and household, then as I grew more tired from the MS, I just felt fortunate that I could work part time. I was told by a phone consultation lawyer and the lawyer I eventually hired, that because of my MS and the length of time of our marriage I should be able to receive permanent spousal support. I never really considered myself "disabled", but I really am tuckered out! I question my ability to work full time and still enjoy regular life. I just want me and my children to be able to stay in this house and neighborhood they grew up in (and with neighbors I love and trust) until they are out of school. Is that so much to ask? I NEED that spousal support to do this.
Well now my husbands lawyer is making me do a vocational assessment and says I have to go back to work full time. I am so angry. I am worried that if I go back to work full time and am not able to handle it, or end up disabled in a couple years, I am hosed! I'll end up without a job, without health benefits to pay for that $4000 copaxone and those $4000 MRIs, and without an income! I could go on disability, but it would not be near what I would get in spousal support. Of course my lawyer is not in agreement with this, but lets be real, I only have so much money to pay a lawyer! Luckily I took out legal plan insurance from work, so that is paying a lot of it, but I am practically having anxiety attacks worrying about how much more it could cost when my free hours are up.
I am so angry about this. Has anyone else gone through this? What do I do? As you all know, with MS - I may be fine today, but could wake up next week with vision problems or unable to walk, etc.
UGH! I have so much HATE in me right now I know it is not good for me or my MS. Of course, if something MS related was going to happen, now would be the right time I guess. I'm so sad.
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