http://www.caregiver.va.gov/
Might be worth checking into. I'm not sure if this is limited to spouces of only combat-wounded Vets or if it would include more, assuming you were active duty in 2001.
If you are the Family Caregiver of a Veteran who was injured post-9/11, you may be eligible for additional services through VA, including a stipend, comprehensive training and medical coverage through VA if you are not already covered by a plan.
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