I don't know how much longer I can keep it together. Together my husband and I have 4 kids (21, 18, 16, 13), 2 (2 & 5 wks) grandkids. He's 42, I'm 40. He was dx in 2003 (onset 2001). Physically he's been up and down until the last 3 years when his limbs went numb and he experienced the MS Hug. He has trouble walking, dragging his left leg often. He uses a cane outside the house. BUT he has refused PT. Says it won't help. His doctor suggested he see a mental health specialist (and so have I). He won't make the appointment.
My 16 YO suggested I call for him, but I'm at the point where, really? I do everything else. Take care of the bills shopping, cooking, kids, etc. I have to take him to his dr's appts because he either won't tell them everything or forgets things he needs to tell them or things they have told him.
He complains every time he moves. I do understand he's uncomfortable, but to hear him curse with every step is hard not only for me, but the 2 kids I still have at home.
And then there's the personal hygiene... He'll change his clothes every 2-3 days and shower every 3-5. He has a stool for the shower. Sometimes he brushes his teeth before he leaves the house. I can't sleep in the bed anymore. He tosses and turns all night and I was used to that, but when he rolls over and breathes in my face... YIKES! I thought something crawled in there to do its business one night!
We don't really communicate or interact like a married couple at all. He rarely sees the two older girls or the grandkids, but never asks about them. I see them 2-3 times a week.
And I can't talk to him abut any of these things, because he instantly gets defensive.
I'm frustrated, tired, emotionally exhausted.
My 16 YO suggested I call for him, but I'm at the point where, really? I do everything else. Take care of the bills shopping, cooking, kids, etc. I have to take him to his dr's appts because he either won't tell them everything or forgets things he needs to tell them or things they have told him.
He complains every time he moves. I do understand he's uncomfortable, but to hear him curse with every step is hard not only for me, but the 2 kids I still have at home.
And then there's the personal hygiene... He'll change his clothes every 2-3 days and shower every 3-5. He has a stool for the shower. Sometimes he brushes his teeth before he leaves the house. I can't sleep in the bed anymore. He tosses and turns all night and I was used to that, but when he rolls over and breathes in my face... YIKES! I thought something crawled in there to do its business one night!
We don't really communicate or interact like a married couple at all. He rarely sees the two older girls or the grandkids, but never asks about them. I see them 2-3 times a week.
And I can't talk to him abut any of these things, because he instantly gets defensive.
I'm frustrated, tired, emotionally exhausted.
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