My father has MS and is in the later stages. He is 78 and I am 48. He continues to work everyday as he is self employed. He works because that's all he knows and that's what keeps him going. He has no other hobbies or distraction besides working. I have offered many times to help transition his business to the next generation but he refuses, stating if he retired he would die.
His MS has gotten so bad he can barely walk and should be in a scooter or wheelchair. But because of is pride he insists on just using a cane. His job requires him to travel by plane 3 times a month and drive a car over 400 miles a month. while travelling this spring he fell while walking and was in the hospital 3 days. We later found out he fell 3 other times last winter. He also had a seizure while at home last fall.
So as you can imagine the entire family wants him to stop driving and traveling because he is unsafe to himself and others. I talked to him last week about driving and he stated I will decide when my driving is bad enough to quit. Did I mention he is a very stubborn guy (:
I'm very proud of my dad for accomplishing everything he has while having MS for 40 years but he has never dealt with the disease and has instead lived in denial of it. But his condition has progressed to the point of disability and it's obvious to his friends and family that he has to stop working.
So my question is has anyone been through something like this? And are there resources out there for this situation? How should I proceed? Are there legal options? I don't know what to do because my family is afraid of change as well as him and aren't 100% behind me if I step in to make these tough choices for my dad.
** Moderator's note - Post broken into paragraphs for easier reading. Many people with MS have visual difficulties that prevent them from reading large blocks of print. **
His MS has gotten so bad he can barely walk and should be in a scooter or wheelchair. But because of is pride he insists on just using a cane. His job requires him to travel by plane 3 times a month and drive a car over 400 miles a month. while travelling this spring he fell while walking and was in the hospital 3 days. We later found out he fell 3 other times last winter. He also had a seizure while at home last fall.
So as you can imagine the entire family wants him to stop driving and traveling because he is unsafe to himself and others. I talked to him last week about driving and he stated I will decide when my driving is bad enough to quit. Did I mention he is a very stubborn guy (:
I'm very proud of my dad for accomplishing everything he has while having MS for 40 years but he has never dealt with the disease and has instead lived in denial of it. But his condition has progressed to the point of disability and it's obvious to his friends and family that he has to stop working.
So my question is has anyone been through something like this? And are there resources out there for this situation? How should I proceed? Are there legal options? I don't know what to do because my family is afraid of change as well as him and aren't 100% behind me if I step in to make these tough choices for my dad.
** Moderator's note - Post broken into paragraphs for easier reading. Many people with MS have visual difficulties that prevent them from reading large blocks of print. **
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