I can't remember if I posted this before - but I can't find it, so here goes.
I generally limit contact with my sister by phone. I used to call her to vent about my symptoms, or to catch up, or both, but those phone calls the conversations ended up being all her. Or her telling me to turn all my troubles over to God (I'm an atheist). She's even told me about 2 women she goes to church with who have MS and are "fine" (by her description, no they are not).
Now my dilemma. The last few months, she's been having health problems, with various parts of her body, plus a mind numbing fatigue (that I attributed to depression, as she's bipolar and on no meds). Well, it looks like she has Lupus. Except her ANA test came back negative for it, but she's had the butterfly rash, the doc thinks the fatigue come from it, etc.
Now, I'm even more leery about calling her. While my symptoms are getting worse, I have a feeling that when I call her, the conversations are going to revolve around HER symptoms, HER problems, etc.
Am I being a bad sister? Really, I could use her support right about now, because my problems are progressing, but I'm afraid I'll just not be heard.
I generally limit contact with my sister by phone. I used to call her to vent about my symptoms, or to catch up, or both, but those phone calls the conversations ended up being all her. Or her telling me to turn all my troubles over to God (I'm an atheist). She's even told me about 2 women she goes to church with who have MS and are "fine" (by her description, no they are not).
Now my dilemma. The last few months, she's been having health problems, with various parts of her body, plus a mind numbing fatigue (that I attributed to depression, as she's bipolar and on no meds). Well, it looks like she has Lupus. Except her ANA test came back negative for it, but she's had the butterfly rash, the doc thinks the fatigue come from it, etc.
Now, I'm even more leery about calling her. While my symptoms are getting worse, I have a feeling that when I call her, the conversations are going to revolve around HER symptoms, HER problems, etc.
Am I being a bad sister? Really, I could use her support right about now, because my problems are progressing, but I'm afraid I'll just not be heard.
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