My best friend (who also has MS) is starting the divorce process. I was wondering if any of you can share if or how your MS effected the process. She feels that she will get allimony because she has MS and has stayed home with the kids instead of working. I would hate to see her blind sided. Any advise would be greatly appreaciated.
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It may vary state by state, but she should be able to get alimony with or without MS. It may make it more compelling to the judge that she has MS, but if she hasn't been working, she's not expected to suddenly get a job.
She should not go before a judge without a lawyer. There is bound to be legal help available for her. She shoudl start with the MS society if she can't afford a lawyer. -
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I agree with BigA.
I was just officially granted my divorce last summer and the MS wasn't a factor. I was a stay at home mom the length of our marriage. The problem with accepting alimony is the problem of insurance coverage for her if she isn't on disability. I had to forgo alimony due to the fact that that plus child support would have made it so I was ineligible for insurance coverage for myself and my kids. It would have been too much, so just keep that in mind.
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I agree that your friend needs to talk to a good lawyer because divorce laws are a bit different in every state. Some of it depends on how long she was married and if there are still any children at home that she's taking care of. Having MS might not count especially if she isn't disabled. Just having MS isn't a disability and the judge might think it isn't her husband's responsibility. The judge might think he should pay for alimony and insurance in general but not special or more for MS.
Your friend was a stay at home mom. She has MS but is she disabled and can't work at anything? If she can work at all it would be better for her to get a job so she can start earning work credits to qualify for disability benefits if she becomes disabled. She can NOT claim disability on her husband's - or soon to be ex-husband's - Social Security account. That might cut down on her alimony a bit but if all she has is alimony and her husband loses his job or becomes disabled himself he won't be able to pay her alimony or insurance and she will be screwed and have to apply for Medicaid.
So even if your friend gets alimony, I think its a good idea if she doesn't depend on it. It would be better for her to get a job and start earning her own disability work credits because she might need them later.Comment
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I think this is excellent advice for anyone divorce pending or not!Originally posted by MSer102 View Post
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Very true. Unless I was talking about Donald Trump money, I would have a very low key divorce, preferably by arbitration.Originally posted by Jules A View PostTawanda
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