I don't post on here a lot, but I do come and read and to get support, info, etc, so thank you for that! Anyway, I am a 33 yr old woman who has been diagnosed for about 2 years. I am lucky to not have had many issues, just some numbness, tingling, headaches, fatigue and now some mild depression.
I just need to vent about DH tonight...he said some hurtful things tonight and it is partly due to having some beers this afternoon/evening, but I'm not excusing it! He doesn't have a drinking problem, but when he does drink occasionally, he's more verbal and quick to start fights, etc. For example, he got mad at our 2 yr old for calling him "mommy". DS just gets excited and calls us by the opposite name sometimes. He just spoke to him like he was an adult calling him by the wrong name or something. It was so weird and out of line. OK i know it can get annoying when your kids do stupid stuff and even 2-yr olds can get annoying, but come on! Just correct him and move on. He's TWO! So that's what started us in little squabbles all night tonight.
Then later I'm cleaning up kitchen after dinner and DS is playing with a train and it gets stuck behind the fridge so I ask DH to retrieve it for me. He responds with "look what happens even with adult supervision." Oh my gosh, it took all my might not to freak out on him! (obviously don't want to do that in front of DS.)
Finally, to end a horrible evening, I am complaining to him about drinking too much this afternoon and one reason I tell him is because he always ends up going to bed at 7/8 pm so we don't spend time together. (obviously if you drink a lot, it makes you tired and you go to bed, so I was pointing this out to him). So then he responds back to me saying "I think you're a lazy person compared to me." Ohhhhkaaaaay...that hurt and pissed me off soooo much. He was like, "this morning I just couldn't believe you were still in bed at 7 am." I went silent and just did bath/bedtime with DS and ignored him. He of course is was in bed asleep around 7 pm.
OMG, #1, it's a freaking holiday weekend. #2, I was sick this week and just today felt better. #3, I don't HAVE to get up at a certain time. Why does it matter? #4 and this is only #4 because I NEVER use my MS as an excuse, but I mean come on, sometimes I think I deserve to acknowledge I DO have lesions on my brain and spinal cord and they ARE affecting me and I AM more tired than I used to be and I am dealing with some depression (he knows all this). I think he is in denial about the MS and it's not even bad at all. What is he gonna do if/when I have "real" issues?!?
And I want to say I am truly NOT a lazy person. I have a 2-yr-old so that should tell you right there, it's physically impossible to be lazy. I have worked my whole life, taught fitness classes (at 5:30 am no less), constantly one of those people who always must be doing somethihng like crafting, reading, cleaning the house, etc. Just recently we decided I was going to be a SAHM (just started this summer) and DH was totally on board with it, so I don't know if now he's just getting jealous/annoyed at my life or what.
I am overly sensitive right now and things will be better tomorrow, but I had to get this out and get some opinions/help.
What would you say to him tomorrow? How do I deal with this? I am a Christian and I think I need to start praying for help with this situation more. So please say a little prayer if you don't mind!
this was really long, I'm sorry!
I just need to vent about DH tonight...he said some hurtful things tonight and it is partly due to having some beers this afternoon/evening, but I'm not excusing it! He doesn't have a drinking problem, but when he does drink occasionally, he's more verbal and quick to start fights, etc. For example, he got mad at our 2 yr old for calling him "mommy". DS just gets excited and calls us by the opposite name sometimes. He just spoke to him like he was an adult calling him by the wrong name or something. It was so weird and out of line. OK i know it can get annoying when your kids do stupid stuff and even 2-yr olds can get annoying, but come on! Just correct him and move on. He's TWO! So that's what started us in little squabbles all night tonight.
Then later I'm cleaning up kitchen after dinner and DS is playing with a train and it gets stuck behind the fridge so I ask DH to retrieve it for me. He responds with "look what happens even with adult supervision." Oh my gosh, it took all my might not to freak out on him! (obviously don't want to do that in front of DS.)
Finally, to end a horrible evening, I am complaining to him about drinking too much this afternoon and one reason I tell him is because he always ends up going to bed at 7/8 pm so we don't spend time together. (obviously if you drink a lot, it makes you tired and you go to bed, so I was pointing this out to him). So then he responds back to me saying "I think you're a lazy person compared to me." Ohhhhkaaaaay...that hurt and pissed me off soooo much. He was like, "this morning I just couldn't believe you were still in bed at 7 am." I went silent and just did bath/bedtime with DS and ignored him. He of course is was in bed asleep around 7 pm.
OMG, #1, it's a freaking holiday weekend. #2, I was sick this week and just today felt better. #3, I don't HAVE to get up at a certain time. Why does it matter? #4 and this is only #4 because I NEVER use my MS as an excuse, but I mean come on, sometimes I think I deserve to acknowledge I DO have lesions on my brain and spinal cord and they ARE affecting me and I AM more tired than I used to be and I am dealing with some depression (he knows all this). I think he is in denial about the MS and it's not even bad at all. What is he gonna do if/when I have "real" issues?!?
And I want to say I am truly NOT a lazy person. I have a 2-yr-old so that should tell you right there, it's physically impossible to be lazy. I have worked my whole life, taught fitness classes (at 5:30 am no less), constantly one of those people who always must be doing somethihng like crafting, reading, cleaning the house, etc. Just recently we decided I was going to be a SAHM (just started this summer) and DH was totally on board with it, so I don't know if now he's just getting jealous/annoyed at my life or what.
I am overly sensitive right now and things will be better tomorrow, but I had to get this out and get some opinions/help.
What would you say to him tomorrow? How do I deal with this? I am a Christian and I think I need to start praying for help with this situation more. So please say a little prayer if you don't mind!
this was really long, I'm sorry!
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