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    Sex and MS the Do's and Dont's

    OK first off about me. I'm 33 married with 3 kids and I was diagnosed with MS 7 years ago. I have been on capaxone rebif tysabri and now I'm using tecfidera. I have a list of different muscle relaxers I have gotten from my doctor. I also have a intrathecal pump that gives me a mix of baclofen and morphine in my spine.

    When it comes to sex medicine can be your worst enemy as most of the crap they give us has negative side effects when it come to getting hard and staying hard. So when it comes to pills ditch them trust me you don't need them. I'm actually in the process of getting my pump removed. And I'm only trying to take the bare minimum of medicine to help with my MS.

    After getting rid of most of my medication it has been a lot easier for me to keep and hold a erection and climaxing is a lot better. I know it sucks to hear this but working out and eating healthy are your best friends when it comes to sex. The drive that keeps me working out and pushing threw the pain is knowing the healthier I stay the longer my little guy will stick around and work.

    I'm trying to save the erectile dysfunction pills and shots for when I need it. I have noticed so many guys with MS jump on the cialis/viagra wagon when all they need to do is start living a better life style and stop taking so many different medications.

    Well then now to foreplay yep I said it foreplay guys. Foreplay is not just a girls best friend. It helps us out a bunch. Let your urge to have sex build up for as long as possible trust me it makes climaxing a lot easier.

    After foreplay come the sex and here is where most men with MS mess it up. You can no longer try to get all crazy. The more you switch positions the faster your fatigue is going to kick in. There are 2 positions that are the easiest. Either her on top or doggy style. These 2 are the best because of fatigue. If she is on top she is doing the work and you save energy. Doggy style lets you be in control and lets you manage your energy levels better.

    I know a lot of women wont like the idea of only those 2 but they are the best for men with MS in my opinion. At first my wife had a problem with it. But after talking to her and explaining why she completely understood. I'm not saying all we ever do are those 2 positions but they seem to be the ones that work the best.

    And another thing that really helped me out was communication. Just being honest with my wife changed the game for me. But then again I'm really lucky because I have an amazing wife. She always lets me know if I cant finish this time it just means we get to try again.

    So thats my 2 cents on sex and MS. I would really like to hear from other men with MS or women with a partner that has MS to find out what works for them. I'm not trying to get all crazy but I have noticed most of the discussions on this topic seem to leave out a lot of info. So please feel free to reply

    ** Moderator's note - Post broken into paragraphs for easier reading. Many people with MS have visual difficulties that prevent them from reading large blocks of print. **
    Death is not the greatest loss in life... The greatest loss in life is what dies in side you while you are still alive

    I was on Gabapentin for a while. It did 2 things killed my libido I just didn't care about sex. It also made having an orgasm nearly impossible, probably because I was forcing myself to have sex for my wife's sake not because I was interested. We tried everything, well not literally, but we did try lots of things and nothing helped. Once I figured out the problem I dropped gabapentin and everything has been fine since.

    I still take vicodin which causes me no problems in that area and klonopin which causes problems but they are short term so I just skip it if I will be "up all night to get lucky" (thanks Daft Punk)
    Rise up this mornin, Smiled with the risin sun, Three little birds Pitch by my doorstep Singin sweet songs Of melodies pure and true, Sayin, (this is my message to you-ou-ou


      You have to be very careful when taking this kind of thing because it can be dangerous to your health. It is better to go to the doctor to prescribe something
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        Originally posted by Mexsin13 View Post
        I know it sucks to hear this but working out and eating healthy are your best friends when it comes to sex.
        Great advice!
        All the best, ~G