I had a break down moment with my partner. I was reading an article about a married couple, both have MS. The ups/downs and pure strength and love they have.
What got to me was how she was wheelchair bound and so dependent on help with EVERYTHING.
I head to the potty 20x a day(alone), shower daily (alone) with the help of grab bars,make our bed, make my our coffee in the AM, drive myself,stand to cook.
Story was: She DX 18yrs, he16yrs. The difference in abilities blows my mind. My question is, (which in my head I know there's no answer), but how long before these achy legs, weak arms, pins for feet, memory going to hell finally takes its toll. I do not (even though I know she will) want to become that dependent on others. I guess I'm just feeling scared and sorry for my partner. I think it's her and my kids that I feel the worst for. I've always been the rock, now I feel like I'm turning to sand. Hense the self pity, (Today) .
When asked how I'm doing the response is always, I'm fine. Well I'm not. I have never, much less liked whiners, so I don't. I suck it up and roll on, life still needs to be addressed on its terms. But damn why did my life game plan change.....?
So I guess after my ramblings my question is; since DX 6 mths ago, how long have I had it before someone finally realized its "this". Then how long has it been attacking me. Am I going to be one descends slowly, miserable. Or like some that's known for 20+ yrs and stayed strong? The unanswered questions drive me nuts.
I do not dwell or feel sorry for myself and give into it.. it's just the question, how long before the inevitable happens?
What got to me was how she was wheelchair bound and so dependent on help with EVERYTHING.
I head to the potty 20x a day(alone), shower daily (alone) with the help of grab bars,make our bed, make my our coffee in the AM, drive myself,stand to cook.
Story was: She DX 18yrs, he16yrs. The difference in abilities blows my mind. My question is, (which in my head I know there's no answer), but how long before these achy legs, weak arms, pins for feet, memory going to hell finally takes its toll. I do not (even though I know she will) want to become that dependent on others. I guess I'm just feeling scared and sorry for my partner. I think it's her and my kids that I feel the worst for. I've always been the rock, now I feel like I'm turning to sand. Hense the self pity, (Today) .
When asked how I'm doing the response is always, I'm fine. Well I'm not. I have never, much less liked whiners, so I don't. I suck it up and roll on, life still needs to be addressed on its terms. But damn why did my life game plan change.....?
So I guess after my ramblings my question is; since DX 6 mths ago, how long have I had it before someone finally realized its "this". Then how long has it been attacking me. Am I going to be one descends slowly, miserable. Or like some that's known for 20+ yrs and stayed strong? The unanswered questions drive me nuts.
I do not dwell or feel sorry for myself and give into it.. it's just the question, how long before the inevitable happens?
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