Planning to move out of NY, any tips?

[pnowsitall]

Hey all.

So I have decided to plan on moving out of ny, for a number of reasons. Cost of living, newly diagnosed, change in marriage possiby....so I think with any new phase in someones life, things must change.

I've been giving some thought to moving to an enlightened state, one where we can medicate ourselves legally with alternative medicines. So far, Rhode Island, Maine, and Colorado. Colorado being 1800 miles away, seems tough since I would be leaving family and friends behind.

What do you guys think? The move to RI would be like 3 hours away. Average salaries are lower, but it would be so nice to be able to live in peace, have a better quality of life, and to be able to medicate legally.

Any tips with people with MS, making long moves? I have a ton of furniture, bed, wall unit, etc, and think it would be tough to do it alone. You suggest any moving services? Has anyone moved to Rhode Island?

Anyone possibly live there, and could offer any good tips on living there, etc?

[Tawanda]

Hey all.
newly diagnosed, change in marriage possiby...

This part of your post stood right out to me. I was personally in full tilt boogie mode when I was first diagnosed with M.S. and as to what you mean by change in marriage possibly, I don't know. Running away may sound fine and good, but maybe there is more you need to grapple with first...

I don't know. On the other hand, a friend of mine tells me Delaware is nice, rents are low, and you may get more bang for your buck overall.

Good luck with everything.

[pnowsitall]

What is full tilt boogie mode?

It seems that after diagnosis, things really took a turn for the worse. Wife moved out, became extremely cold to me, non-communcative, etc.

That's what I meant by change possibly. This is not a run and hide idea, or runaway for that matter.

It's the quest to live my life, let it be more relaxed and secluded. Life is short.

Delaware wouldn't work for me, b/c it isn't enlightened.

[BigA]

I agree that it's living life to the fullest, but I believe there is still a hint of escape. I understand fully, but would advise that you not make any quick decisions. And give your wife/fiancé time to adjust, unless she has said as much that she doesn't want to be with you anymore. You can't imagine how different you may be in the simplest of actions.

The diagnosis of MS is a profound matter. It makes some sense to go do something equally profound, but you have to make sure you're not simply reacting. You've just been handed something possibly terrible, but also a gift that you seem to understand - the real understanding of how short life is. But there is still time to develop that. I'm in my 3rd year and my life is so much better than before DX.

You can definitely leave, but make very sure it's not running or jumping. The left coast is pretty progressive and they've just legalized Marijuana in Co and Wa.

[Tawanda]

What is full tilt boogie mode?

I was trying to think of how to explain this...if my mind was a pie chart that first year after diagnosis, it would have been entirely shaded in orange (the color that most represents M.S. I guess). I call that year my lost year.

I mistakenly believed this diagnosis was all about me, but of course it was bound to affect my marriage, family, etc.! My husband definitely freaked as well, and our marriage was definitely put to the test. In time, we made it work, but it was not an overnight process.

In any case, life is short, and I don't blame anyone for pulling out that bucket list when the whim hits. Unfortunately, I am just way too tired to even think about said list, so in a way, you have to strike while the fire is hot as my embers cooled rapidly once I got sick.

Again, good luck. Too bad most progressive places that I can think of are out of your parameters.