this is pure venting but I'm really frustrated and hurt. I was dx in 2008 at the same time I quit drinking and was getting divorced. It was pretty rough. I thought I had friends but they disappeared, more because I was sober, but also because I couldn't go out as much as before. I made a few more after becoming sober but they faded out pretty quickly. Then I had to move because the ex was stalking me, I was fired and filed bankruptcy. I needed a new place to start over and had the blessings from all my doctors, therapist included.
But, besides the friends, my family dropped out too. I have a very small family to begin with - one sister, a stepdad and dad and stepmom. I don't know the cousins on my dad's side very well and were never close to my stepdad's family. My sisters' kids are teens and we all live in different states.
I do have a great BF, he's supportive and kind. He has a disability too and it's worse than mine and he's also older. His family is very kind to me but we have only been together almost 2 years. He moved with me because he's "free" to go anywhere and his family all live in different states as well.
I emailed a few remaining long distance friends and my sister a couple of days ago because I was scared and really feeling some kind of mortality, even though I'm far from that - as far as anyone who may get in a car accident - so it shouldn't be an issue. But I'm going through klonipin withdrawal and a bad reaction to zanaflex. I have major depression (decades) and OCD so I have become fixated on who will be around when it gets really, really bad. I haven't heard from anyone.
So where did I go? am I on another planet? just because I moved doesn't mean I'm gone and I can't talk to anyone anymore. I don't understand this at all and I'm feeling very hurt. I know at the time of dx and all the other crap I distanced myself because I didn't know up from down but I still kept in touch and when I got a handle on it I did see some of them before I moved. One of my friends from the past has MS as well, I knew her before my dx but I don't hear from her either.
I'm 45 and making a contingency plan for my care when it gets bad because at this rate I'll be alone.
Thank you for listening to my vent.
But, besides the friends, my family dropped out too. I have a very small family to begin with - one sister, a stepdad and dad and stepmom. I don't know the cousins on my dad's side very well and were never close to my stepdad's family. My sisters' kids are teens and we all live in different states.
I do have a great BF, he's supportive and kind. He has a disability too and it's worse than mine and he's also older. His family is very kind to me but we have only been together almost 2 years. He moved with me because he's "free" to go anywhere and his family all live in different states as well.
I emailed a few remaining long distance friends and my sister a couple of days ago because I was scared and really feeling some kind of mortality, even though I'm far from that - as far as anyone who may get in a car accident - so it shouldn't be an issue. But I'm going through klonipin withdrawal and a bad reaction to zanaflex. I have major depression (decades) and OCD so I have become fixated on who will be around when it gets really, really bad. I haven't heard from anyone.
So where did I go? am I on another planet? just because I moved doesn't mean I'm gone and I can't talk to anyone anymore. I don't understand this at all and I'm feeling very hurt. I know at the time of dx and all the other crap I distanced myself because I didn't know up from down but I still kept in touch and when I got a handle on it I did see some of them before I moved. One of my friends from the past has MS as well, I knew her before my dx but I don't hear from her either.
I'm 45 and making a contingency plan for my care when it gets bad because at this rate I'll be alone.
Thank you for listening to my vent.
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