What to do when our care givers get stressed???
We have all been care givers and had received the help from a care giver. Most of us our care givers are our spouses or other loved ones. It is just natural to get frustrated caring for someone.*
My care giver is my husband. It is not too often when I really need him to help me. I am blessed that I can get around and function without much help. There is in my opinion a big difference between a husband caring for a wife and a wife caring for a husband. At least in my home.*
I learned very quickly when I went blind that my husband stresses out easily. He couldn't handle working and basically not coming home to everything already taken care of. I love him dearly but if his world does not keep going smoothly he doesn't deal with it well! I learned quickly to try to do everything I used to before I lost my eyesight. I had to because it was clear he was just too stressed out. Which is fine. Everyone is built to handle things differently.*
So now I will explain how when he is sick or hurting and needs me to care for him. He has Gout and gets flair ups often. I know he is in pain because where the Gout has flared up is swollen. Gout effects him usually in his feet, knees, wrists or elbows. If he is having a flare up in his wrist it's weird because he can't get off the couch for anything. Apparently it causes his legs to not work either. Otherwise why would I have to fluff his pillows, get him water, rub his wrist, refill his ice pack then prop his arm on a pillow with the ice pack. It just never stops!!! I am surprised he doesn't ask to be helped to the bathroom or to feed him his food! Men are BIG BABIES!! It seems like a common cold can bring them to the brink of death.*
It is clear to me why GOD gave woman the ability to have children. Only 1 man would have given birth. He then would have informed every single man, child and baby boy in the world that it HORRIFIC PAIN! Then the human race would have died off!*
Yes woman can handle pain better, stress better and dealing with their own kids. Shoot it's too stressful for a man to babysit his own kids. Doesn't know how to really do it and thinks if they screw it up bad enough then they won't be asked to do it again!!! * Ya I am on to his game!! Lol
Here is a few tips I found on care giver stress:*
Focus on what you are able to provide. Don't give in to guilt. Feeling guilty is normal, but understand that no one is a "perfect" caregiver. You're doing the best you can at any given time. Your house does not have to be perfect, and no one will care if you eat leftovers three days in a row. And you don't have to feel guilty about asking for help.
I hope everyone had a great weekend. Have a wonderful day!!*
Christine
**URL removed by Moderator in compliance with MSWorld Guidelines. This may be put in your Profile for all registered, logged-in members to see. Go to UserCP > Edit Details**
My care giver is my husband. It is not too often when I really need him to help me. I am blessed that I can get around and function without much help. There is in my opinion a big difference between a husband caring for a wife and a wife caring for a husband. At least in my home.*
I learned very quickly when I went blind that my husband stresses out easily. He couldn't handle working and basically not coming home to everything already taken care of. I love him dearly but if his world does not keep going smoothly he doesn't deal with it well! I learned quickly to try to do everything I used to before I lost my eyesight. I had to because it was clear he was just too stressed out. Which is fine. Everyone is built to handle things differently.*
So now I will explain how when he is sick or hurting and needs me to care for him. He has Gout and gets flair ups often. I know he is in pain because where the Gout has flared up is swollen. Gout effects him usually in his feet, knees, wrists or elbows. If he is having a flare up in his wrist it's weird because he can't get off the couch for anything. Apparently it causes his legs to not work either. Otherwise why would I have to fluff his pillows, get him water, rub his wrist, refill his ice pack then prop his arm on a pillow with the ice pack. It just never stops!!! I am surprised he doesn't ask to be helped to the bathroom or to feed him his food! Men are BIG BABIES!! It seems like a common cold can bring them to the brink of death.*
It is clear to me why GOD gave woman the ability to have children. Only 1 man would have given birth. He then would have informed every single man, child and baby boy in the world that it HORRIFIC PAIN! Then the human race would have died off!*
Yes woman can handle pain better, stress better and dealing with their own kids. Shoot it's too stressful for a man to babysit his own kids. Doesn't know how to really do it and thinks if they screw it up bad enough then they won't be asked to do it again!!! * Ya I am on to his game!! Lol
Here is a few tips I found on care giver stress:*
Focus on what you are able to provide. Don't give in to guilt. Feeling guilty is normal, but understand that no one is a "perfect" caregiver. You're doing the best you can at any given time. Your house does not have to be perfect, and no one will care if you eat leftovers three days in a row. And you don't have to feel guilty about asking for help.
I hope everyone had a great weekend. Have a wonderful day!!*
Christine
**URL removed by Moderator in compliance with MSWorld Guidelines. This may be put in your Profile for all registered, logged-in members to see. Go to UserCP > Edit Details**
Comment