My husband was diagnosed with progressive remitting MS 7 yrs ago, he was in the army for over 10 yrs as an Infantry Man and he was medically retired at 100% 3 years ago. We have been married for 6 yrs, i was also in the army for 12.
Recently he has started to become mean and belligerent any time someone offers him help, to the point of offending people. Example: He dropped his cane in the store and the woman behind us tried to pick it up for him and first he asked her not, then when she continued siting its ok not a problem he yelled put it down i dont need your help i am not dead.
Next just last night we where out for a social event and i stated that i would drive because i had not been drinking, he got so mad at me because i didnt ask him exactly the way he wanted me to using specific words that we got in an argument and he jerked the wheel and made me crash. Thankfully no one was hurt except for a bush and the car but this is getting out of hand.
I want to ask him to stop drinking and/or talk to someone about his anger/stress but I am afraid he will just get upset again. And honestly in the past talking to someone has not worked because he never tell them the whole truths, only what he remembers and they end up telling him that i am being unreasonable and too hard on him. Please does anyone have any suggestion?
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Recently he has started to become mean and belligerent any time someone offers him help, to the point of offending people. Example: He dropped his cane in the store and the woman behind us tried to pick it up for him and first he asked her not, then when she continued siting its ok not a problem he yelled put it down i dont need your help i am not dead.
Next just last night we where out for a social event and i stated that i would drive because i had not been drinking, he got so mad at me because i didnt ask him exactly the way he wanted me to using specific words that we got in an argument and he jerked the wheel and made me crash. Thankfully no one was hurt except for a bush and the car but this is getting out of hand.
I want to ask him to stop drinking and/or talk to someone about his anger/stress but I am afraid he will just get upset again. And honestly in the past talking to someone has not worked because he never tell them the whole truths, only what he remembers and they end up telling him that i am being unreasonable and too hard on him. Please does anyone have any suggestion?
** Moderator's note - Post broken into paragraphs for easier reading. Many people with MS have visual difficulties that prevent them from reading large blocks of print. **
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