School

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After a recent reply to my post "A take from a 23 year old", I feel that I need to address some important topics on children at school while having a relative with MS or any disability for that matter. I'm sure that its no secret to most of you that kids at school are cruel to each other. There's countless excuses that kids have for bullying each other as there has always been. As to reflect upon myself, I never really had an issue in grade school or high school in relation to having a disabled parent. In fact, in all of those years I can only recall two instances. I've found that all of my friends have always been very supportive of me and my mom. Both mom and I have always had good luck in the saying "treat others how you would like to be treated and you will get the same in return". The key to bullying is simply raising your children to know what really matters in life. What matters are their friends and the people who love them at home. It doesn't matter what the kids at school think or feel about them. If shown enough love and support at home, I think you'll find that it won't matter to your kids what others think and feel about them. An old saying goes "It always rains the hardest on those who deserve the most sunshine" although sometimes the key is just knowing where to find that sunshine. For kids in school, that sunshine should be found right at home. Another big helper with school and life in general, is to teach kinds God and Christianity. People don't realize that even aside from the religion aspect is a whole pack of values that goes with Christianity that no child should be without. Another approach to teaching kids Christianity other than your own word and attending church is to read success stories to them. Being Christian has helped so many people in so many different ways its incredible! Online is the best place to look for individuals stories about this. I found myself in school feeling bad for the bullies rather than getting upset at something that they said. As my grandmother used to say, "its just another example of bad breeding". In all honesty, A BULLIES LIFESTYLE DIRECTLY REFLECTS THEIR HOMELIFE. After their senior year goes by they'll realize (I know I did) as to just what a minute part of life school really is anyway. After graduation, everyone keeps in touch with their friends and the rest of the kids will all split up and they'll never see each other again. I've even found that most of the kids that I didn't like in school whom I have run into in stores and whatnot, have come up to me and have acted like they're my best friend. Most people are different after graduation once they get out into the real world. Real friends will support a person in everything and the rest are insignificant. I myself have always just viewed my mom being in a wheelchair as "legs are to walking as wheels are to riding". There's no such thing as a disability friends if you just know how to look at it. God Bless.