Not invited

[Thinkimjob]

Just really sad. My family (well, the ones who live here,and my cousin and her fiancé from England), went out to dinner tonight.

We are a small family.
I was not invited. My uncle, who I love dearly went round and collected my not-at-all disabled (read, just fine,complete hypochondriac) father, and escorted him in and out and drove him home,

But not wheelie walker me. Not even the offer. I still can't believe this.

I am overreacting; am I overreacting? It hurts so much.

And no doubt they thought they were being kind, not dragging me out at night and all.

Can't stop crying. Sorry to be a sook.

[KitOP]

I'm not so sure what a "sook" is, but I think that you are totally entitled to be one.

Are you overreacting? IMO, no you are not. I would have had the exact same reaction that you did. And to tell you the truth, I have.

I've seen friends and family members out doing things that I once loved to do that I no longer just can't.

It was insensitive and rude for your family not to invite you out to dinner with them. Again, my opinion, but I"m sorry, you are family too!

Sending some virtual hugs your way. Wish I could be there to give you one person to person. And then we'd go out for dinner and have the most decatent dessert that we could find!

[KatieAgain]

I think it absolutely sucks! You have every right to cry.

Your families loss...seriously. Next time you see your uncle, I would gently bring it up to him.

Get yourself a nice strong drink...family is nice, but they sure can be a pain.

[palmtree]

That must hurt so bad. Especially since you are so good to your family. That was very insensitive of them to say the least. It's probably not the wheely walker, they probably figured they would be turned down.

My family does the same. My mother and sister are taking my son and his father to Kauai next week. The four of them have formed a family. They wouldn't know each other if it wasn't for me. But for years I've turned them down because of my asthma and now MS.

This is a good time to gently tell them you would like to have gone and that your feelings were hurt. Maybe they will make it up to you.

[Seasha]

Wow and ouch I would have been devastated and bawling my eyes out too. I'm in agreement that you should speak directly to your uncle and let him know how hurtful that was.

You definitely were NOT overacting.
And I am so sorry

[pennstater]

So sorry to hear. I would be upset as well. As hard as it may be, I would also let your uncle know how you felt.

Not excusing it, but maybe they went somewhere they thought would be difficult for you to navigate. If that is your uncle's reasoning, just let him know that you would still like the option to decide yourself. I had a neighbor who had similar issue. Her family didn't ask her somewhere as they figured she would turn it down, and by turning it down, would be reminding her of her disability. They thought they were being kind. She reassured them in a gentle fashion that she has accepted her limits and needs no "reminders", as she lives it every day. So in future, please ask and let her decide.

Hope you are feeling a little better. Hugs.