don't know what to do - my exact thoughts

[Marie12]

ok,this morning, my husband woke me up and wanted to know where all my meds were. Well, let's c, ms, no memory, sometimes good. Well, I gave him all the old jars, and asked him to call the pharmacy.

he said he couldn't call because it's Sunday morning. So, I reminded him, that we call for refills a lot of times on Sundays, and they save the voice mails for Monday morning. I know one thing, "I am not the only person on this planet with MS, forgets things.

There are plenty of refills on those bottles. So, I asked him again, "Should I get someone to handle it?" Same answer, "Be quiet, I'm busy.

Just saying, " December is our forty year wedding anniversary." As has been the case repeatedly, now that # is not very important to me. Hmmm ????????

I'm still upset over his comment Friday, "That he is tired of me having ppms. Well let's c, not only am I dealing with ppms, but now am being criticized for surviving so long with it ???? Cab #, I'll be looking for that number once I am awake and get something to eat

[Marie12]

I'm scared

My husband came home, after golfing with his brother, and stated, "I've dealt with you having primary progressive MS." Fortunately, I have very poor memory. But, it was the most horribly, mean thing that anyone has ever said to me. We've been together forty years.

He's never been like that before. But I've noticed lately, that something has been bothering him. I will not start bragging, but I have always done more than I should with this primary progressive ms. Since I'm complaining, can use your opinions and helpful information. I know he has know idea of the pain I'm going through with this ms, but - - - - - - -

[KatieAgain]

Marie...at least he is still there after 40 years.

My husband was a Schmuck at the first sign of trouble.

We all have our bad days...even spouses.

[Marie12]

Katie, thank thank thank you! U R wonderful!

I m so sorry u r dealing with this ms stuff. But remember to mention to God, that you have helped so VERY many while you were dealing with this MS stuff too.

Oh, Thank you so much Katie. U have really helped me. I am saying some extra prayers for you, because you are extra wonderful, and I really don't think you need to deal with all the health issues. You already have enough

[choco]

Shmucks

If we are going to share horror stories about our shmucks of a husband, can I pipe in and add what surely must be an all time doozie?

Before my schmuck of an ex messed around with his even bigger shmuckett of a marriage breaking girlfriend, he told me that the reason he found other women attractive is because they walked properly. This is after 13 years of putting up with his philandering. In fact, I found out after we got married that he started screwing around from even before we got married. And the best thing he ever did for me? Leave.

After being separated for five years the divorce finally has gone through. However, being his ever marvellous self till the very end, I noticed in the divorce papers before I signed them that he decided to add a clause that said should I pre-decease him, he would inherit my property. This is the man who hammered home to me non-stop how he wanted a clean break divorce i.e. no strings attached. I am waiting to receive the final documentation from our land registry office confirming that the house is now in my name. Once I receive those papers, I can assure you he will be left in very little doubt of what I think of him.

So ladies, what can I say other than men can be grade A schmucks. Mind you, women can be as well however as we are talking about husbands, I suppose shmucketts won't be included in this discussion lol

[Marie12]

I will be praying for you Choco

This MS stuff has me very confused. I thought we were supposed to be the ones with brain issues. I am so sorry that he has such brain issues that you are dealing with.

Please avoid him as much as possible. Our brains have enough to deal with, let alone dealing with that crap.

I don't know why us very intelligent, deal with MS. Maybe our brains are really larger than people without MS?

[Marie12]

I am REALLY you have internet, and post. This has helped me more than meds. Luv Ya

I am REALLY you have internet, and post. This has helped me more than meds. Luv Ya

[choco]

This MS stuff has me very confused. I thought we were supposed to be the ones with brain issues. I am so sorry that he has such brain issues that you are dealing with.

Please avoid him as much as possible. Our brains have enough to deal with, let alone dealing with that crap.

I don't know why us very intelligent, deal with MS. Maybe our brains are really larger than people without MS?

Thank you Marie 😌

[hobbit]

My story.

My diagnosis ruined my ex's plans. His plans, not mine. Recovering from ON, I got a beat down, hard to dodge a punch you literally cannot see coming. Two black eyes, broken nose (again) fractured cheekbone, bruises the size of grapefruit...everywhere, fractured tailbone (steel toe boots at work), I had an imprint on my back from the dumbbell he beat me with.

I grabbed the kids and ran. Court order issued, escorted by police back to the house (he was forced to vacate), 6 weeks and 13 police reports later, he set the house on fire in the middle of the night.

I saved the children, but we lost everything......

I am now married to the most wonderful man in the world, a man that helped raise my children in a healthy environment.

I have scars, I have MS, it's been a long road.

Peace,
Anna

[Kimba22]

My diagnosis ruined my ex's plans. His plans, not mine. Recovering from ON, I got a beat down, hard to dodge a punch you literally cannot see coming. Two black eyes, broken nose (again) fractured cheekbone, bruises the size of grapefruit...everywhere, fractured tailbone (steel toe boots at work), I had an imprint on my back from the dumbbell he beat me with.

I grabbed the kids and ran. Court order issued, escorted by police back to the house (he was forced to vacate), 6 weeks and 13 police reports later, he set the house on fire in the middle of the night.

I saved the children, but we lost everything......

I am now married to the most wonderful man in the world, a man that helped raise my children in a healthy environment.

I have scars, I have MS, it's been a long road.

Peace,
Anna

OMG, Hobbit! I'm speechless about what your ex did to you. I'm so glad you found such a wonderful man to share your life with after all you've been through. Lord knows, you deserve it. So do your kids.

Can't say here all the things I really wish for your ex, just hope he went to prison ... for life.

[hobbit]

12 years sentence

Ex was sentenced to 12 years, which in Illinois meant 6 years. Between him and the MS, I felt like I was living on borrowed time. Two months after he was released, a police officer was at my door (we moved six times in a 3 year period, he had a lot of family). I was informed he stole a gun, he stole a car and he had my address. The police dept. left an empty squad car in front of my house. Ex discovered there was an APB out for him from Illinois to Tennessee, he decided to commit suicide rather than go back to prison.

I danced a jig, I sang loudly, I cheered and I have no regrets. I have never once, ever spoken badly of him in front of my children. I didn't have too, his own actions spoke for him.

We are all scarred and we always will be but like MS, you roll with the punches (pun intended). I will never allow anyone to hit me again, rape me again, abuse me mentally or physically. If my children learned anything it would be that the Phoenix does rise from the ashes.

My life reads like a really bad Lifetime "Movie of the Week", lol.

Peace,
Anna

[Thinkimjob]

Ex was sentenced to 12 years, which in Illinois meant 6 years. Between him and the MS, I felt like I was living on borrowed time. Two months after he was released, a police officer was at my door (we moved six times in a 3 year period, he had a lot of family). I was informed he stole a gun, he stole a car and he had my address. The police dept. left an empty squad car in front of my house. Ex discovered there was an APB out for him from Illinois to Tennessee, he decided to commit suicide rather than go back to prison.

I danced a jig, I sang loudly, I cheered and I have no regrets. I have never once, ever spoken badly of him in front of my children. I didn't have too, his own actions spoke for him.

We are all scarred and we always will be but like MS, you roll with the punches (pun intended). I will never allow anyone to hit me again, rape me again, abuse me mentally or physically. If my children learned anything it would be that the Phoenix does rise from the ashes.

My life reads like a really bad Lifetime "Movie of the Week", lol.

Peace,
Anna

OMG. Can't really think of anything else to say, except what a horrible man. And you're still standing (hopefully literally)!
Give that woman a round of applause.

[choco]

OMG Anna, I don't know what to say. I am sitting here blubbing for what you have gone through. As though the MS wasn't enough you then had to deal with a psychopath for a husband. How you managed to come through everything and retain your sanity is a true miracle. Thank Gd you have a good man beside you now.

Your story does indeed read like a movie of the week, but the horror of it is that it is all true. When I hear about things like this and see what is going on in Syria with the refugees and so forth and so on I really get mad at myself for even having the audacity to complain and/or feel sorry for myself. What I went through with my shmuck of an ex is nothing compared to what you suffered.

I thank God that you are okay now and that you came through this horror.

[Marie12]

Anna, I am definitely praying for you today.

I am definitely praying for you today. I am so sorry. I do wish there was something in my power to help you.
Marie

Ex was sentenced to 12 years, which in Illinois meant 6 years. Between him and the MS, I felt like I was living on borrowed time. Two months after he was released, a police officer was at my door (we moved six times in a 3 year period, he had a lot of family). I was informed he stole a gun, he stole a car and he had my address. The police dept. left an empty squad car in front of my house. Ex discovered there was an APB out for him from Illinois to Tennessee, he decided to commit suicide rather than go back to prison.

I danced a jig, I sang loudly, I cheered and I have no regrets. I have never once, ever spoken badly of him in front of my children. I didn't have too, his own actions spoke for him.

We are all scarred and we always will be but like MS, you roll with the punches (pun intended). I will never allow anyone to hit me again, rape me again, abuse me mentally or physically. If my children learned anything it would be that the Phoenix does rise from the ashes.

My life reads like a really bad Lifetime "Movie of the Week", lol.

Peace,
Anna

[pennstater]

Hobbit - You have amazing strength, which I am sure, scared your cowardice ex. Sounds like he is where he belongs. I am sure your children have learned a tremendous amount from you.

Marie12 - It is hard for us to deal with our losses, just as it can be for our spouses. It doesn't give your husband the right to take it out on you though. I hope it was just a bad day on his part.