Oh my dear..HUGS all around! As you can see we truly care about you and your well being. But I do have some thoughts if you don't mind reading on..K?
First of all, I would find it hard to get past the terrible sting of "I don't love you anymore." I know, I know. And as much as most on here have suggested couple counseling, I would suggest to wait on that until you each get to talk privately with a therapist. The reason is many guys are not comfortable, nor have the ability to deal with feelings then to be put on the "spot" so to speak, in front of you and a professional, it makes it very difficult. Think about that.
So until you both ready to be in front of a therapist, I would first suggest finding ways, if you can, to meet each others needs. For you, maybe seek ways for others to take turns to come and help you. (and I turn it would help him. Not sure if you have family, friends or church members who can figure out a schedule to help you. That way he can he can come home to maybe a donated meal, cleaning, and care for you. Things like that.
Possible?
And could he do it all for you, like did for him? He's not you, sadly, and who knows. Yes, that sure seems self centered. His needs aren't being met.. neither are yours.. Sounds like the stages of grief=the could've beens, should've beens for both of you.
Have you thought of writing to him? And then ask him to write to you?
Just some thoughts.. this is a turning point for sure. Maybe for the better..
Hugs my dear. My email address is in my profile, if you care to write privately.
Jan
First of all, I would find it hard to get past the terrible sting of "I don't love you anymore." I know, I know. And as much as most on here have suggested couple counseling, I would suggest to wait on that until you each get to talk privately with a therapist. The reason is many guys are not comfortable, nor have the ability to deal with feelings then to be put on the "spot" so to speak, in front of you and a professional, it makes it very difficult. Think about that.
So until you both ready to be in front of a therapist, I would first suggest finding ways, if you can, to meet each others needs. For you, maybe seek ways for others to take turns to come and help you. (and I turn it would help him. Not sure if you have family, friends or church members who can figure out a schedule to help you. That way he can he can come home to maybe a donated meal, cleaning, and care for you. Things like that.
Possible?
And could he do it all for you, like did for him? He's not you, sadly, and who knows. Yes, that sure seems self centered. His needs aren't being met.. neither are yours.. Sounds like the stages of grief=the could've beens, should've beens for both of you.
Have you thought of writing to him? And then ask him to write to you?
Just some thoughts.. this is a turning point for sure. Maybe for the better..
Hugs my dear. My email address is in my profile, if you care to write privately.
Jan
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