As I start to write this, I'm not really sure if I am looking for advice, or more just to vent my personal musings and conflict. I guess we'll see where the thread goes...
I work in engineering management at a large corporation. I've been there for going on 15 years now and have done reasonably well for myself. Starting several years ago, my enjoyment of the job began a slow and steady decline, for typical reasons...stress, politics, long hours, etc. I've gotten disillusioned with working on new shiny stuff that I know will be obsolete in 2 years when the next new shiny stuff comes along.
I've also found it increasingly difficult to stay on top of the ever-changing landscape of technology - and in retrospect, I think much of that has to do with focus/memory/cognitive issues that I now believe are linked to the disease. It's taking me longer to do my work, which means I work more hours, which means I feel more stressed, which makes my symptoms worse. It's a vicious cycle.
Over the last 2 years, pre-Dx, I'd given some pretty serious thought to stepping away. Quitting for a year or two, doing some volunteer work, spending more time with family, making myself a better and happier person - and then deciding whether I wanted to ever go back, or find a new direction (more likely the latter). My husband was supportive of the idea. I'd definitely miss my salary, but we could get along fine on his. Last year I was almost ready to pull that trigger, and I was waiting for the end of our review cycle so as to still be eligible for an annual bonus...and then I got Dx'ed. And that changed everything.
My job pays a good salary and offers good health insurance. I'd be eligible for short-term or long-term disability should that become necessary. And now I also feel a need to try and stash away as much money as I can to deal with inevitable healthcare costs. So now a part of me feels I should just 'suck it up' and hang in there for as long as I am physically capable, even if I'm mentally miserable.
The other part of me is concerned that staying put is going to hasten my MS decline. The much more severe flare which ultimately led to my Dx hit me during an extremely stressful period at work - which is a regular occurrance. I have zero doubt that the stress is at least a partial contributor - and probably a major one - to the increasing severity and frequency of my issues.
This disease and the uncertainties of the future have really thrown me and have left me feeling a much greater conflict between my financial needs and my personal health/sanity needs. Should I stay or should I go?
Who has been in a similar situation? Any advice/experience to offer? Has anyone taken the big chance of just leaving and been happy they did? Or regretted that they did? Am I stupid for even still considering walking away from the job? I'm just feeling a bit lost right now.
I work in engineering management at a large corporation. I've been there for going on 15 years now and have done reasonably well for myself. Starting several years ago, my enjoyment of the job began a slow and steady decline, for typical reasons...stress, politics, long hours, etc. I've gotten disillusioned with working on new shiny stuff that I know will be obsolete in 2 years when the next new shiny stuff comes along.
I've also found it increasingly difficult to stay on top of the ever-changing landscape of technology - and in retrospect, I think much of that has to do with focus/memory/cognitive issues that I now believe are linked to the disease. It's taking me longer to do my work, which means I work more hours, which means I feel more stressed, which makes my symptoms worse. It's a vicious cycle.
Over the last 2 years, pre-Dx, I'd given some pretty serious thought to stepping away. Quitting for a year or two, doing some volunteer work, spending more time with family, making myself a better and happier person - and then deciding whether I wanted to ever go back, or find a new direction (more likely the latter). My husband was supportive of the idea. I'd definitely miss my salary, but we could get along fine on his. Last year I was almost ready to pull that trigger, and I was waiting for the end of our review cycle so as to still be eligible for an annual bonus...and then I got Dx'ed. And that changed everything.
My job pays a good salary and offers good health insurance. I'd be eligible for short-term or long-term disability should that become necessary. And now I also feel a need to try and stash away as much money as I can to deal with inevitable healthcare costs. So now a part of me feels I should just 'suck it up' and hang in there for as long as I am physically capable, even if I'm mentally miserable.
The other part of me is concerned that staying put is going to hasten my MS decline. The much more severe flare which ultimately led to my Dx hit me during an extremely stressful period at work - which is a regular occurrance. I have zero doubt that the stress is at least a partial contributor - and probably a major one - to the increasing severity and frequency of my issues.
This disease and the uncertainties of the future have really thrown me and have left me feeling a much greater conflict between my financial needs and my personal health/sanity needs. Should I stay or should I go?
Who has been in a similar situation? Any advice/experience to offer? Has anyone taken the big chance of just leaving and been happy they did? Or regretted that they did? Am I stupid for even still considering walking away from the job? I'm just feeling a bit lost right now.
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