kittysmith,
this might sound harsh, and i certainly don't want to upset/offend you, but no doctor or therapist is going to be able to help you until you are willing to accept the changes in your life and open up to finding peace. i struggled with bad anxiety and just wanted a clinician to wave a wand and make everything better, but i had to be willing to accept my issues and work towards change. in fact, i didn't even go into intensive therapy until i was sure i was going to commit and not have a rotten attitude about it. (i eluded to it before - severe contamination ocd with panic attacks...i was formally tested and topped the scale of ocd intensity.)
a lot of crap has happened to me too. a lot has happened to my partner. two years ago she went from the hospital to a nursing home b/c she wasn't safe in our home. she couldn't even use the bathroom without 2 or 3 aids. she was in adult diapers that were so bulky they stuck out of her pants. she was physically disabled, on ssdi, and stuck in a nursing home with stroke and dementia patients. she was only 34 at the time. she had student loans from schooling for a career she never got to cash in on.
could we have sat there being bitter? yes. family had all kinds of advice and were annoying us. my younger brother would scream at me when he saw me b/c he couldn't handle what was happening in my life. the two of us were broke and just about everything seemed to be going wrong. what did we do? we tried our best to make the best of it. i mean, would i have liked a magic genie to show up and change everything instantly? of course. but this was our life.
we decorated her drab depressing nursing home room. we spiced up her assistive devices. i brought her tons of snacks so she could skip the strained prunes and cream of wheat type meals they served her.
and then i got busy looking for anything that might improve her quality of life. that's when we went to northwestern and she had stem cell therapy done (with chemo...called hsct). she actually saw improvement. and got better. you might be a good candidate if you are 47, mobile, and have had a relapse recently. check my profile.
your situation sounds like it is very tough. i'm not trying to make any of this sound easy or fun. but, if you are committed to change, your life might take a new direction that brings you happiness. no offense, but based on reading your posts, it sounds like right now, you want to be bitter and angry....i was this way for a time when everything was going wrong and just being royally pissed made me feel good. but, it has the potential to burn a person out over time. and makes the divide deeper. you see others going on with their lives and it just drives the anger further...and the anger only hurts you in the end.
and one last thought, i am not religious...i am spiritual. i joined a unitarian universalist congregation and the support was phenomenal. i made great compassionate friends. i joined groups not designed for support, but ended up meeting some great people. i don't know what your child's autism is like. but maybe he/she could even go with you. i know my congregation included child-care for some events..perhaps a possibility.
this might sound harsh, and i certainly don't want to upset/offend you, but no doctor or therapist is going to be able to help you until you are willing to accept the changes in your life and open up to finding peace. i struggled with bad anxiety and just wanted a clinician to wave a wand and make everything better, but i had to be willing to accept my issues and work towards change. in fact, i didn't even go into intensive therapy until i was sure i was going to commit and not have a rotten attitude about it. (i eluded to it before - severe contamination ocd with panic attacks...i was formally tested and topped the scale of ocd intensity.)
a lot of crap has happened to me too. a lot has happened to my partner. two years ago she went from the hospital to a nursing home b/c she wasn't safe in our home. she couldn't even use the bathroom without 2 or 3 aids. she was in adult diapers that were so bulky they stuck out of her pants. she was physically disabled, on ssdi, and stuck in a nursing home with stroke and dementia patients. she was only 34 at the time. she had student loans from schooling for a career she never got to cash in on.
could we have sat there being bitter? yes. family had all kinds of advice and were annoying us. my younger brother would scream at me when he saw me b/c he couldn't handle what was happening in my life. the two of us were broke and just about everything seemed to be going wrong. what did we do? we tried our best to make the best of it. i mean, would i have liked a magic genie to show up and change everything instantly? of course. but this was our life.
we decorated her drab depressing nursing home room. we spiced up her assistive devices. i brought her tons of snacks so she could skip the strained prunes and cream of wheat type meals they served her.
and then i got busy looking for anything that might improve her quality of life. that's when we went to northwestern and she had stem cell therapy done (with chemo...called hsct). she actually saw improvement. and got better. you might be a good candidate if you are 47, mobile, and have had a relapse recently. check my profile.
your situation sounds like it is very tough. i'm not trying to make any of this sound easy or fun. but, if you are committed to change, your life might take a new direction that brings you happiness. no offense, but based on reading your posts, it sounds like right now, you want to be bitter and angry....i was this way for a time when everything was going wrong and just being royally pissed made me feel good. but, it has the potential to burn a person out over time. and makes the divide deeper. you see others going on with their lives and it just drives the anger further...and the anger only hurts you in the end.
and one last thought, i am not religious...i am spiritual. i joined a unitarian universalist congregation and the support was phenomenal. i made great compassionate friends. i joined groups not designed for support, but ended up meeting some great people. i don't know what your child's autism is like. but maybe he/she could even go with you. i know my congregation included child-care for some events..perhaps a possibility.
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